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Upasna Asks: Why Do I Care So Much?

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Upasna Barath 07/01/2016

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Hi, everyone! I am currently enjoying a break away from college this summer; however, I can’t help but continue to stress myself out about school-related things even when I am AWAY from school. In this video, I am primarily asking the following questions because I have NO idea how to answer them!

How can I stop caring so much?
Why do the things I care about deeply stress me out?
Isn’t it OK to care, like, a little?
Should I forgive myself for being this way, or should I work hard to not constantly worry?

???!!

4 Comments

mariealmighty July 1st, 2016 5:45 PM
i relate to this sooo much you dont even understand
milktea July 1st, 2016 2:01 PM
I’m a 27 year old female adult and I still feel these things, but it does get better. Knowing that it is mostly generalized anxiety and that when I am living (in my brain) in the future or the past, and not the present moment, that that’s when these feelings happen, helps a little bit. I hope you feel better and find some answers that help you!
Kim July 2nd, 2016 12:23 PM
I definitely relate to caring too much about things that do not matter- I think it makes it even more frustrating to KNOW they don’t matter and still not be able to stop caring! I find being on social media so draining because I find myself way more invested in people’s (strangers!) lives than I even am in my own.
anabeatriz18 July 3rd, 2016 8:43 AM
I can relate a lot. When I was in high school I cared so much about other people opinions about me. And it wasn’t good, I was always trying to please them or trying to figure out why they didn’t like me. And after a few years of therapy I finally understand that I can’t control everything (which was something hard for me to accept).
All of this is also very related to my anxiety and insecurity. It’s not easy to try to change things a bit, but it is worth it. I confess that sometimes I still care! A lot! But I keep saying to myself that I’m human. I’m allowed to care, even if I think it’s about something “stupid”, you know? Even though it is a long process, you feel very free when you stop caring about every little thing (specially if people like you or not).
I love your videos!

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