Amanda de Cadenet is a photographer, an actor, and the creator and host of The Conversation With Amanda de Cadenet, a TV series (on Lifetime and online) in which she talks to smart and talented women like Issa Rae, Gabourey Sidibe, Brody Dalle, and Sarah Silverman about their work and the rest of their lives. Amanda has a way of making everyone feel comfortable enough to open up about stuff like body image and heartbreak, probably because she’s always honest about her own life—she spent her teen years running wild, dating rock stars, dancing on tables, and generally being publicly awesome. Today she’s like the cool big sister everyone wishes they had, and guess what? Now you do! Here she is answering some of your questions on personal style, playing hard to get, and whether you should change your life plans for a boy.