Ananda

How do you know if what you’re doing is right, or if what someone else is doing is wrong, when you have no reference point?

This question is in reference to kissing. Because as much as there’s no wrong way to kiss someone…there really is.

I’ve had sudden, unknown tongues whirling around my mouth and first thought, Well, this just isn’t right, what on earth are you doing? A spring cleaning? And then thought, What if this weird tongue movement is the norm?! Maybe this is what all the kids are into these days.

As someone who has kissed guys and girls I am often asked which gender is better, a question that I don’t really answer. I was having this conversation with my bisexual friend and first kiss. We were comparing our girl-to-boy ratios: His was 7 to 4, and mine 5 to 2. We then debated whether or not we should include each other on the kiss list because the kiss we shared two years earlier was “hardly countable.” He told me that, in his experience, girls were better kissers than boys. I agreed, and then he kissed me—this time for more than a second, for many seconds in fact, like, a lot of seconds. When he pulled away he started nodding. It took him a while before he swallowed and said quietly, “Yep, girls, girls are definitely better.”

We’re counting that one. ♦