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What am I supposed to do with my “hair down there”? I’m not sure what the norm is. —Sarah

First, let me just say that no matter what “the norm” is, it’s totally fine to do whatever the heck you want with your pubes, including absolutely nothing. But your question got me curious about different grooming methods, so I straight-up took a super-scientific pube poll among the Rookie staff. I went first, telling them (and now THE WORLD) that if I remember to, or if I’m going to be spending a lot of time in public in a swimsuit, I’ll shave my bikini line and trim the rest. But to be honest, I usually don’t think about it. As it turns out, among this somewhat self-selecting group of women, that is the number-one most popular way of semi-handling our own hair down there. Other extremely popular answers were “nothing” and “sometimes I get it waxed.”



So, there you have it. You can join the teeming masses on the right side of this beautiful pie chart by giving a crap probably less than half the time, or you can choose from one of the many delicately sliced pieces of pie over on the left there. And don’t even get me started on the whole other pie chart we didn’t have room for, which contains options such as DYEING IT PINK, as one staffer said she did for a while. Luckily, since hair almost always grows back, you can spend the rest of eternity trying every option under the sun—or none at all! —Jane Marie

I’m of African-Asian-Caucasian parentage, and, for me, that combo has resulted in kinky hair. When it’s wet, my hair goes down to my waist, but my ringlets are so tight that when it dries, it stops a few inches past my shoulders. I embrace my hair rather than trying to restrain it, but I’m kinda running out of ideas about how to style it. I want to dress it up sometimes, but I’m seriously lazy when it comes to hair routines! Do you have any suggestions about easy styles to try, or natural-haired icons to draw inspiration from? —Teya

As a fellow natural-haired girl, I’ve had plenty of experience with shrinkage as well! Your first must-have is a good leave-in conditioner, which will cut down on frizz. I’ve heard Miss Jessie’s MultiCultural Curls styling lotion is a nice formula, but it’s kind of expensive, so maybe try Mixed Chicks Leave-In Conditioner instead if you’re on a budget.

Next, you could try to stretch your hair without heat. This can be done a number of ways, but braids and two-strand twists are pretty easy to do. Here is a good video tutorial about how to do a twist-out, and here’s one about stretching with braids. Your long hair will look lovely down after you stretch it, and it will also be easier for you to style. These knots a super-cute idea to try after you’ve stretched your hair:

You could also try this French roll twist, this braided bun, or this simple and cute ponytail.

As for icons, I would, of course, suggest Solange:

Undeniable goddestry. Photo by Getty Images via Harper's Bazaar.

Undeniable goddestry. Photo by Getty Images via Harper’s Bazaar.

Finally, take a look at the blogs Naturally Curly and Curly Nikki for even more inspiration! —Chanel


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  • Suzie Q April 22nd, 2014 11:18 PM

    pink pubes?? was that tavi ahaha great idea xx

  • jesus_chan April 22nd, 2014 11:37 PM

    Hey Jane Marie!

    Re: your disbelief at the fact that fingers blend foundation really well – they’re actually one of the more preferred methods, even within the professional beauty industry (with people like Carmindy and Bobbi Brown forgoing brushes in favour of their phalanges)!

    Sponges come second, simply because their flat surfaces allow you to truly achieve that flawless porcelain look, and brushes are for the top-tier, godly makeup connoisseurs (I have a Sephora foundation brush that cost me like, twenty-something bucks, and I literally /never/ use it because it soaks up all my foundation and leaves bristles all over my cheeks).

    But yeah, fingers are (in my humble opinion) da when it comes to foundation and concealer application, you just have to tap the foundation on using the pads of your fingers, and layer the product in areas where you want more coverage (ie pimples, around your nose, any redness, etc.).

    As for your complaint about foundation getting under your nails, I can’t help you there :)

    Good luck in your beautification rituals you gorgeous ladies and gents!


  • debster99 April 23rd, 2014 1:01 AM

    My friend told me about Bantu knots. I think I might let her try it on me…

  • Silviasoy April 23rd, 2014 3:30 AM

    Love the idea: wild, free and pink! I’m gonna have the funnest pubes EVER!

  • Louise_sparkle19 April 23rd, 2014 10:10 AM

    Hi guys at Rookie and beyond!

    I just signed up so I could ask this question because its making me feel a little sensitive. My sister commented today that I have hair on my top lip, I know this is normal for ladies too, but she said it was really dark and noticable. So I’m wondering if there was a way to get rid of it? Or to make it less noticable.

    • freya2770 April 23rd, 2014 5:47 PM

      Hi! There are a few ways to get rid of unwanted facial hair, the most popular are probably tweezing, waxing, and bleaching.

      Tweezing is what you’d expect, pulling the hairs out with a tweezer. It’s probably more trouble than its worth if you have more than a few hairs (especially if they’re quite thin/wispy) but it is otherwise pretty easy and obviously cheap (also gets rid of the hairs for a while since you pull them out from the root).

      Waxing has the advantage of pulling out a lot of hairs in one go. You can get wax especially for facial hair from chemists, most wax brands (e.g. Nair) make it. However it can cause inflammation and redness, especially if you have sensitive skin.

      Bleaching is supposed to just make the hair lighter and therefore less noticable, although this may not work if you have more or thicker hair. Most body hair bleaches (e.g. Jolen) are a cream which you leave on for around 10 mins then wash off, very easy to use.

      So all of those have pros and cons, which you choose should probably depend on your skin and hair type. If you want a more permanent solution laser hair removal, where the hair is lasered off over a few sessions then doesn’t grow back, is an option; it can be quite expensive but also saves a lot of trouble. I wouldn’t worry about removing the hair, though, unless you feel like it! I know loads of girls who are self-concious about hair on their top lip (not that there’s anything wrong with that anyway), but I really think that it’s usually something that’s can be obvious to yourself but not at all to other people.

    • soretudaaa April 23rd, 2014 7:44 PM

      Hey! I’m very pale, and of Italian and Middle Eastern heritage, so I’ve always had your “problem” and I just use those hair removal creams. Just make sure it’s for your face :)

    • lingeringsoul April 23rd, 2014 8:01 PM

      hey there, i thought i’d get in on this conversation because i’ve had this issue foreEEEeEever. my hair on my face (like my head, legs, arms, etc.) is dark, thick and plentiful. when i started taking a notice to it more i began getting it waxed (about 3 years ago). the great thing about waxing is because of how it pulls the hair out, it truly does take time to grow back, and it’s gradual. for myself, i needed to go once every two weeks to maintain. the pain is pretty bearable and over super quick anyway.
      if your hair is dark but not too thick, bleaching can really be a great option. if you have thicker hair though, the hair will still be reasonably noticible but sidenote: i’ve had a serious complex with body hair for a while but the truth of the matter is that (probably) no one is scrutinizing your face to the extend that they would actually notice much (except you). but it definitely is a comfort and confidence thing, at least for me.
      oh and – i wouldn’t recommend shaving. just not a good idea and it can be super uncomfortable.
      all that aside, i’m actually on my fourth laser treatment at the dermatologist for my lip, and i’m pretty happy with how it’s going. if you have thinner and lighter hair again, this isn’t your best bet. though there’s a significant price tag, waxing prices and even product prices add up faster than it may seem, and if you’ve got the oppurtunity, laser is really something to look into (and if everything’s done correctly, it’s uncomfortable but really not very painful).
      i think this is a rambly answer i hope i was able to help you at all and good luck!

  • obeykid April 23rd, 2014 10:50 AM

    Ah, the dreaded pubes…My suggestion is to forget about them! During Summer I usually trim on the sides if the bikini bottom is small but the rest of the time I live a carefree life.

    I think that unless you’re going into the porn business or to a nudist beach…pubes should be the least of your concerns.

  • elliecp April 23rd, 2014 2:31 PM

    dyeing it pink omg you’ve inspired me

  • Abby April 23rd, 2014 3:16 PM

    I think I might have to go dye my pubes now

  • Cerise April 23rd, 2014 7:29 PM

    Have any of you all heard of sugaring? It’s like waxing, but instead of wax, you use a honey-like paste and cotton strips to remove the hair, and as far as hair removal methods go, it’s my absolute favorite. <3 It's pretty easy to use (although it does take a little practice to get the hang of it), you can apply it just about anywhere on your body, and it's not supposed to cause as much irritation as waxing can, something I admittedly can't speak to, since I never use actual wax. Plus, if you apply some in the wrong spot or drip some on the floor, there is absolutely NO problem. Just apply soap and warm water, and BOOM. It's like it never even happened. You can whip up a batch yourself if you're feeling DIYish (just google recipes), or you can buy some premade stuff. I like to use Moom, which you can find on Amazon if you're curious.

  • laneyjane April 23rd, 2014 9:03 PM

    I’m oddly comforted by the fact that I am not the only one who lets the pubes be wild n free xx

  • wallflower152 May 7th, 2014 8:23 PM

    Bahaha I love the pie chart! I prefer to trim mine. I borrow my boyfriend’s beard trimmer (he’s totally ok with it) and it’s cool cuz it’s SUPER quick and you can use the guard thingies to not cut them too short and protect your labia from cuts. Then if I’m gonna swim I shave the sides. If you prefer shaving/trimming I suggest investing in a beard trimmer. You can get em for like $15.