Dear Diary

October 2, 2013

Goodbye to all that.

Naomi

My boyfriend split up with me on Monday. I don’t feel heartbroken anymore, but I have experienced a little loss of confidence. Thursday I gathered my regrets and reflections on our relationship and then let them go. Friday my eyes were drawn to the held hands and affectionate gestures of complete strangers, but I had only fleeting pangs of melancholy. Saturday I stumbled upon some photos of us together over the summer, and it felt like I was looking at just one chapter in my life, one that was now quite suddenly closed. Those pictures represented then: a self-contained period with good and bad bits. I was not in a good state of mind the majority of the time, and having experienced my first serious relationship, I am really not in a hurry to repeat the process.

Now is an opportunity to start fresh. Now, I am looking out my London window at the London sky, hearing the rattling of London train commuters below. I can see the Shard and Canary Wharf from my bedroom, all lit up at night. I’ve met people I never knew existed before last week, I’ve cried on the phone to my mum, and I’ve laughed in hysterics in halls kitchens. Already I feel like I’ve experienced so many things that make me feel much more like a whole person than trying to please a guy ever did.

I’ve gone through a tumult of emotions in the past week, so many up and down periods that they’ve basically cancelled each other out. I don’t feel stronger or weaker, I don’t feel old or young—perhaps I don’t know how I feel. And that feels OK. ♦

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20 Comments

  • Viaperson October 2nd, 2013 7:30 PM

    britney!!! i just want to tell you HOW MUCH i remember feeling exactly the way you do, and how beautifully you articulate those feelings. you are such an interesting and intelligent person and the fact that you fight back against your sadness at all is a testament to your strength :) your school’s philosophy club sounds like a magical place to grow intellectually and socially. sending luuuv (from 5 years in the future <3)

  • runitss October 2nd, 2013 7:33 PM

    Britney, are you me? Serious… I’ve also been in a “CREATE EVERYTHING UNTIL I RUN OUT OF INSPIRATION, OR UNTIL THIS PHASE GOES AWAY.” It’s kind of nice. I’m still doing terribly, but the creation is helping me cope.

  • dreamygirl October 2nd, 2013 7:39 PM

    britney. in love with your words. in love with your ideas. I have got no idea how to congratulate you on being wonderful, but you are, you are very special.

  • Amal October 2nd, 2013 7:56 PM

    Britney’s entry was my favorite. I’m in high school and I feel the same way. Everything’s really confusing but there also safe places which make things just a little bit better. Thanks for helping us feel less alone :)

    http://www.tutusaresweeter.com

  • thebrownette October 2nd, 2013 8:34 PM

    I feel ya Naomi. There’s nothing weirder than looking at old photos of you and someone you used to know but are no longer close with..

  • Helena K. October 2nd, 2013 8:44 PM

    Oh my god, ruby. I don’t want to say you made me cry, cause I never cry, but your piece affected me in a way nothing has for a while.

  • Ruby B. October 2nd, 2013 8:56 PM

    Naomi, I’m so happy for you to have this opportunity to start fresh and that you aren’t drowning in heartbreak like some would. You are beautiful, lady ❤

  • alexisapunk October 2nd, 2013 9:35 PM

    Ruby just gets me ya know:’) This entry was so perfect I just need to read this for the rest of my life!

  • GlitterKitty October 2nd, 2013 10:32 PM

    Katherine, I really love your article this week. “I feel guilty every time I listen to a song or spend too long in the shower or walk around outside for five minutes, because I know I have work to catch up on” Is so true and relevant in my life right now. I get so overwhelmed and stressed about schoolwork and it’s just really nice to know that someone else is feeling this way and is brave enough to write about it. Thanks so much.

  • Maki Unicorn October 3rd, 2013 12:57 AM

    Oh, Ruby! Please, don’t panic, take it easy. It’s ok to have a boyfriend. You should just make sure that he is a good guy. And if he is, let him be near you.

    I remember myself crying on my friend’s lap when a guy asked me out: “Oh my god! It means we’ll have to kiss each other and even have sex! Will I survive?!”

    But I knew, he was a good person, and eventually everything went ok. We’ve been together for two years already. So, I want to wish you good luck! Just don’t overreact.

  • soup October 3rd, 2013 1:46 AM

    britney! what an amazing post. its so good to be in the state of mind where all you want to do is make, make, make!!

    naomi… :(

    that’s all

    http://ihatetomatosoup.blogspot.ca

    • soup October 3rd, 2013 1:46 AM

      also… this collage is wonderful!

  • rhymeswithorange October 3rd, 2013 2:23 AM

    Katherine!! I am so happy that you are having a grand ol’ time (at least for a day)! Also this entry is super beautifully written, congrats man.

  • enthusiastictruckdriver October 3rd, 2013 12:39 PM

    Britney, I feel exactly the same now that I’ve moved into my new school. Stay strong and don’t be afraid of the occasional slips into sadness–I feel them all the time, and I’ve found that the best way of dealing with them is just to accept that this is not the permanent state of things, and that I will feel this way many times before I find myself in a place where I feel peaceful and happy. I hope that helps and I hope you have a wonderful week :)

  • sedgwick October 4th, 2013 8:47 AM

    Katherine you write BRILLIANTLY

  • whyamidreamingwhenimstillawake October 4th, 2013 8:47 AM

    BRITNEYYYYYYYY YOU ARE A GODDESS I FEEL YOU SO MUCH PLEASE LET’S BE BEST FRIENDS
    XXXXXX

  • thelilacparadox October 4th, 2013 9:47 AM

    I especially loved the diaries this week. It’s like all the writers wanted to convey exactly one moment in time. Sometimes those one moments are when you feel the most emotion and contemplate life the most.

    You are all beautiful.

    http://paradoxicalmusingsofme.blogspot.com

  • Gwendolen October 4th, 2013 4:45 PM

    The thing I love about these entries is that they are all so different, so I feel ok with my individual life, but have common themes, so I feel united :)

    theirfancies.blogspot.co.uk

  • La Fille October 6th, 2013 4:22 PM

    Naomi, I just wanted to say thank you so much for writing about this because I’ve been there. Actually, I’m in this situation right now.

  • Eli October 9th, 2013 2:42 AM

    Britney
    Your diary entries are beautiful.
    Thank you.
    I hope you have a nice week.