Tunde Adebimpe is so many things at once: the lead singer of TV on the Radio and of Higgins Waterproof Black Magic Band (at Union Pool in Brooklyn this Sunday), a music-video director, the groom in Rachel Getting Married, and quite possibly the sweetest, wisest man alive, as proven in this video.

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