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Friend Crush

April 2013: Laura and Laurie

Illustration by Emma D.

Illustration by Emma D.

Laura, 16, is a high school sophomore living in Virginia. Laurie, 14, is an eighth-grader in Louisiana. They’ve never met in person, but they’re best friends, and they’ve been passing virtual notes to each other since last June.


TO: anaheed@rookiemag.com
FROM: Laura
SUBJECT: Friend Crush

The story of how I met my best friend is all thanks to the internet. I was having a bummer summer and decided to watch some good ol’ quality YouTube to make myself feel better, when I accidentally met Laurie in the comments section of a VlogBrothers video. Thousands of Tumblr and Facebook messages later, I feel closer to her than anyone I’ve met in real life.

I’d always felt like the friend who loved way too much. When I met Laurie, I saw it was possible for two friends to be equally crazy about each other. We talk every day now, and we have blogs dedicated to each other’s faces. The next step of our friendship: meeting in person in the location directly between us—a town in Georgia called Snellville. It has the slogan “Everybody’s Somebody in Snellville.” Doesn’t that sound like something out of a Dr. Seuss book?

 


ROOKIE: Tell me about your bummer summer.

LAURA [crusher]: I live kind of far away from everyone else in my town. None of my friends drove yet last year, so I didn’t have a way to go anywhere. I didn’t really do much.

I’m curious about what happened the day you and Laurie met online.

It was intense! She made a comment on a VlogBrothers video of John Green, and it got a bunch of thumbs-ups, so it was at the top of the page. She said she was happy to be a part of such a great community, and I replied that I was happy to be there with her. And we just kept the conversation going in the comments. Then we exchanged Tumblr URLs and started chatting on Facebook. It’s all history from there.

What made you like her so much in the beginning?

We were going through each other’s Tumblrs at first and seeing that we had a lot of the same interests, like art and different TV shows and bands like Bright Eyes and Fall Out Boy and Fun. We were each freaking out about how cool it was that the other one existed. I got to know her really, really quickly. The conversations were easier than most [offline] conversations I have.

How so?

We talked about how in other friendships, we were always the more excited person, but that we were equally excited about talking to each other. It was just kind of an instant bond of best-friendship. We chat every day through Facebook.

Now that you know each other better, what do you talk about?

I’ve had a tough school year with a lot of work, and she’s been helping me not completely stress out. She’s also helped me through some tough friendship problems. Like, real-life friendship problems.

How did she help?

I had a friend who was kind of a bully. Laurie told me not to listen to the things that person told me, which were upsetting me at the time, and she encouraged me to get out of the person’s target zone.

Do your other friends know about Laurie?

Not a lot of them. But her friends know about me. I talk to some of them online sometimes.

How do you think she would describe you?

She would probably say I’m nice, and that I understand things that other people can’t.

What’s she like?

She’s really sympathetic, and a good listener. She’s also creative and really, really funny.

What’s the funniest thing she’s ever sent you?

One time she filmed herself dancing really hard to the Fall Out Boy song “Dance, Dance” to try to keep herself awake after being up for more than 30 hours. At a few points, I’m pretty sure she was channeling the “Thriller” music video, but she denies doing so consciously. One of our other good internet friends, Rosie, even made animated GIFs of it.

Laurie dancing to Fall Out Boy.

Laurie dancing to Fall Out Boy.

What’s the funniest thing you’ve sent her?

Weird videos of me lip-syncing to songs like “Teen Idle” by Marina and the Diamonds and “C’mon” by Panic! at the Disco and Fun. She said one of the times I made her laugh the most was when I sent her a video of me reciting the lyrics of “The Only Difference Between Martyrdom and Suicide is Press Coverage” by Panic! at The Disco like they were a poem, complete with coffee shop–esque finger snapping at the end.

Have you ever thought about what you’ll do when you meet?

I haven’t thought about what we’ll do, but I’ve thought about when we could meet. I’ll be getting my driver’s license soon, and I was thinking maybe the summer after senior year.

That’s a long time from now! It seems like it would be hard to have a best friend you’ve never met and who’s so far away.

Yeah. It’s kind of unfathomable to think of forming a bond with someone based mostly on text on a screen. All I know is that it’s very possible, and it feels very real.

Top, left to right: Laura and Laurie with the L journal. Bottom: Photoshopped together, for the time being.

Top, left to right: Laura and Laurie with the L journal. Bottom: Photoshopped together, for the time being.

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ROOKIE: A lot of people have acquaintances online that they’ve never met, but it seems kind of unusual that you and Laura became best friends. Why do you think that she—of all the other people you’ve chatted with and of all the people you know in real life—became your best friend?

LAURIE [crushee]: It was just fate or something. She was really easy to talk to, and she was always encouraging. We had a lot to say to each other.

What makes it easier to talk to her than, for instance, a friend you have at school?

I have time to think about what I want to say to her, and if I don’t have anything to say, I’ll just send her a key smash—like when you just put all your fingers on the keyboard and rapid-fire press things. I can a minute to formulate a response, and it’s OK. That helps a lot.

Are you guys chatting right now?

She’s messaging me, but I’m not messaging her back yet.

Could you describe Laura’s personality a little bit? She seemed sort of shy on the phone.

Yeah, she is really elusive. She says her friends in real life call her an enigma. I’ve actually never talked to her on the phone. We’ve tried to video chat a couple times but it didn’t turn out well, partly because we had connection problems, but also because she’s shy, I guess. But once she opens up, she doesn’t seem to have trouble talking about anything. She’s really compassionate. She’s always thinking of everybody else, before herself. And she’s really joyful. She’s just a cool person.

She told me you sent her a really cool birthday present.

One night we were shopping together online, and she mentioned that she liked this shirt. It was around her birthday, and it wasn’t expensive, so I got it for her. And I made her a painting of our faces together. And then I sent her a mix and the L journal, which she probably told you about.

No, she didn’t mention it!

Oh! Well, it’s a journal I bought when I was in the fourth grade. It has an L on it, and because both of our names start with L, we’re writing in it and sending it back and forth. We used to send letters all the time, but we sort of slowed down with it. The journal is bringing that back a little. It’s pretty cool.

If you chat online every day, how do you keep what you write a secret until the other person gets it?

If I write something in a letter, I’m not going to tell her about that. The letters feel more formal. It’s not like I write more formally—I still say the same things. It’s just the actual writing with a pencil and knowing she won’t see it for a few days that makes it feel different.

Does your friendship seem different from offline ones?

Sometimes it feels not as real, which isn’t a negative thing, but there aren’t consequences. I can just say some things without being scared of what her immediate reaction will be. I can confront her, and I can say really weird personal stuff. We do plan on meeting one day. And it feels like we’ve already met.

Have you talked about what you’re going to do when you hang out the first time?

We’ll probably just go out to eat and, like, hug a lot.

Does it make you nervous?

Yeah! It makes me super nervous. I’m scared it’ll be different or awkward. But I know, deep down, that it won’t. It’ll just be good.

What side of you is she seeing that friends in your town don’t know about?

I really tell her everything. We can explain every detail of our days, which you can’t do with a person who’s there all the time. And we’re interested in a lot of the same things. I can talk to her about Harry Potter, which none of my friends in real life care about at all. Also, this sounds dumb, but just the internet as a whole she understands more, I think—like the communities. Maybe because she’s older? Which isn’t a big deal for us, but it makes her different from my other friends. They think it’s weird that my best friend lives so far away from me, but it’s not weird to her. And Laura and I have a lot of little inside jokes. Most of them are just like, typos. We say okat instead of okay. And we talk almost exclusively in capslock. We started doing it because we were excited that we’d met, and it stayed. ♦

(Interviews conducted by Lena.)

To nominate your own Friend Crush, send an email to anaheed@rookiemag.com telling us what made her take up occupancy in your heart; and please include the following: (1) both of your names, (2) your ages, and (3) a big, clear picture of EACH of you. Thanks!

20 Comments

  • claudia h April 22nd, 2013 11:30 PM

    LAURIE!!!!!! oh my gosh!!! this is so exciting!!
    Your friendship is so much like mine and Phoebe’s!! Internet friends are the absolute best (✿◠‿◠)

  • Oregongem April 22nd, 2013 11:54 PM

    this article totally breaks my heart bc my bestfriend is from the web and we’ve been friends for like 5 years and we still haven’t met and i hate it, but he’s so cool and uhguhguhg. it just fills me w/ sad feels abt missing out on cool rl friend things. i hope you guys meet, i hope i get to meet seb soon.

  • TessAnnesley April 22nd, 2013 11:54 PM

    I am actually dying from the cuteness

  • Lulu April 23rd, 2013 3:38 AM

    Vlogbrothers, woot :DD You two made my day!

  • AliceS April 23rd, 2013 5:20 AM

    You girls are so cute! My best friend is my penpal (and email-pal??). I’m in Italy and she is in the States but we met in Oxford last December. It was a little bit awkward in the first moments, but all the things we wrote each other created an incredible bond, a bond I haven’t knew before. And I completely understand the thing to be equally happy to talk each other.
    Good luck, I hope you will meet soon.
    Un abbraccio, at both of you!!

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  • Mary the freak April 23rd, 2013 8:19 AM

    you guys are too cute!

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  • oriGINAlity95 April 23rd, 2013 8:48 AM

    AHHH I’M SO GLAD THAT YOU GUYS GOT FEATURED (FELLOW INTERNET FRIEND HERE) THEY DESERVE THIS 100 TIMES OVER!!! <3

  • loonylizzy April 23rd, 2013 9:43 AM

    woo for georgia girls! and woo for vlogbrothers! you girlies sound awesome. i hope you meet soon!!!

  • wallflower152 April 23rd, 2013 10:33 AM

    Friend Crush is one of my favorite Rookie features. All the stories are so unique and special. Laurie and Laura can I be y’all’s friend? I love FOB and Bright Eyes too. I remember when the vid for Dance, Dance came out. I watched it obsessively and learned the dance. : )

  • decemberbaby April 23rd, 2013 12:56 PM

    THIS IS MY FAVORITE FRIEND CRUSH THEY ARE SO CUTE
    AND THE DANCING GIFS OMG

  • Manda April 23rd, 2013 4:32 PM

    Maybe I’m just a Debby-downer or I’ve seen Catfish too many times, but solely internet-based friendships worry the shit out of me.

    • claudia h April 23rd, 2013 7:02 PM

      I think that teens of this generation are brought up to know the dangers of the internet and that, if you’re cautious, it can be completely fine to have internet friends! There are heaps of ways to make 110% sure that the person you are talking to is legit like video chatting or even talking on the phone. Also, having experience with meeting up with internet friends in real life there are ways that you can do it safely. I find that it’s good to meet in a public place with a lot of people around and I always take a parent with me at first to meet them and just make sure that they’re the real deal :)

  • lauriepilose April 23rd, 2013 5:22 PM

    hi this is Laurie, the crushee from above!! last night Laura and i stayed up, refreshing the rookie homepage obsessively until we saw our faces change to full color. i think we were both ecstatic with the article!! thank you so much to rookie and its readers. im about to cry just reading the other comments. you guys are the best <3

  • Eryn April 23rd, 2013 6:46 PM

    Ah, this is awesome.
    I am definitely always the friend who loves the other more/is more excited. I sometimes even feel this way with internet friends, though there’s just something special about connecting with someone you have so much in common with. It’s so great that you guys have such a solid relationship <333

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  • sarahbelle April 23rd, 2013 7:06 PM

    This is so adorbs!!! And omg VlogBrothers is my life…I want an internet friend!

  • AlbinoRabbit April 23rd, 2013 8:47 PM

    You guys are absolutely, undeniably adorable. And might I just take the time to say that I think that you both have the most perfect noses. Seriously, I’m jealous.

  • thedresscollector April 23rd, 2013 10:21 PM

    yay for good music (like fun. and bright eyes) and yay for internet friends!

  • bookworm123 April 24th, 2013 4:45 PM

    aw guys this is so awesome! i follow laura on tumblr and this whole exchange makes me happy:) i hope they meet as soooon as possible!

    ginevraweasly.tumblr.com

  • barbroxursox April 25th, 2013 8:55 PM

    I think John and Hank would be glad to know that people have been brought together through their community. :)
    Go nerdfighters!

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