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Will Be Boys

A report from both sides of the male gaze.

Illustration by Ruby A.

Illustration by Ruby A.

I’m sure you’ve heard the expression “boys will be boys.” People use it when a seven-year-old boy pushes his female classmate off of the playground slide. (That means he has a crush on you!) When a 12-year-old boy snaps the bra strap of the girl next to him at the lunch table. (He’s just joking around!) When a 16-year-old boy walks by, swivels his head, and loudly exclaims, “Damn, I’d tap that ass!” (It’s a compliment! It’s just hormones—he can’t control himself!) As a trans* guy, I don’t buy any of these excuses. I think he can control himself—it’s just easier to blame biology than to unpack years of privilege and learned behavior.

Before I knew I was transgender, I presented as female for 19 years, and I was on the receiving end of all the behaviors I just described. In middle school, some of my guy friends would lay their hands on the seat of my chair so that when I sat down, they could grab my ass. It made me angry, but I didn’t think I was allowed to be. Aren’t I supposed to be flattered by the attention? I wondered. Whenever my girl friends and I got upset or offended by a bra snap or a butt grab, the boys would say it was “no big deal,” and I think a part of us believed them. To tell a teacher would have been social suicide—these guys were part of our group, and we knew better than to get them in trouble. At the same time, I was molding myself to be a girly-girl, someone boys wanted, because I thought that’s what I was supposed to do. Even if I didn’t enjoy that kind of attention, I felt like if I had no worth to boys, I had no worth at all. I gauged what to wear by my male classmates’ reactions. If their jaws dropped at my short-shorts, I was doing something right. If they made fun of a particular shade of lip gloss, I never wore it again.

Sophomore year, I was struggling with depression. I started dressing in hoodies and sweatpants to make myself less visible and more comfortable. Still, there was no escaping the leers of the boys at school. My male friends frequently offered unsolicited opinions on how I could be sexier. “You should wear tighter clothes,” they would say, and I’m not sure I could count the number of times it was casually suggested that I get breast implants. The few of them who wanted to be more than friends sometimes let a hug linger for too long, or worse, tried to kiss me when I’d made it 100% clear that I didn’t feel the same way. Part of me felt like I couldn’t say no, like it was my job as a girl to go along with it, and so sometimes I did. I’d learned—from movies, from classmates, from family members—that testosterone makes boys perpetually horny, that they “need” to act on their impulses, so in my mind, they, like the occasional stranger at the mall who would take advantage of a crowd to grope me before quickly walking away, couldn’t help what they were doing.

I had no idea how much I put up with or brushed off as normal until I started to transition to a male-presenting person when I was 20. Suddenly, I was “one of the guys.” People tend to assume that transitioning is about me becoming something else, but in a lot of ways my experience is more related to how other people treat me—what they assume about me based on physical characteristics. For instance, I’ve always been really small. I’m the person friends lift in the air when they hug me, the one who always gets stuck in the middle seat on car trips, who crawls into tight spaces to retrieve missing items, who wins limbo contests. I’ve never been the go-to person for any type of strength-related task. But early on in my transition, an older woman pulled me aside at the supermarket and asked me to help her carry three cases of water bottles to her cart. Wow, strangers expect things of me as a man, I remember thinking.

People—colleagues, friends of friends—started asking me to do things like grab a beer and watch football, and I, ever the good listener, became privy to attitudes that made me even more furious about all the harassment I had silently endured before my transition. A while ago I was out with some co-workers, one of whom I’ll call Carl. Carl started telling this story about the previous night’s exploits: the girl he was sitting next to stole his beer and took a sip from it (possibly accidentally), so he grabbed her face, turned it towards him, and kissed her. Then he said, “You owed me!” I guess she didn’t react too badly, because it was clear Carl was pretty proud of himself for this slick move. He went on to complain about how all the girls at the current bar looked “like dykes.” I didn’t say anything, because it was a work function and I really wasn’t sure how to respond. Another night, a friend of a friend pulled me aside at a party and started telling me about a recent hookup. He described the girl he was with as a “prude bitch” because she didn’t want to have sex with him. When I told him that the girl didn’t owe him anything, he said, “I thought you were a man,” and walked away.

The way the world saw and treated me changed so rapidly, but the way I saw the world hadn’t changed at all. On one hand, I had this newfound male privilege—I noticed that people tended to respect my personal space more, and nobody suggested I sit on their lap to make room—but on the other, it was assumed that I shouldn’t be scared walking alone at night. Whenever my guy friends got too drunk, they’d stumble across campus by themselves at 2 AM. I was now expected to do the same, even though I’d been raised to think that was dangerous, and still do.

I’ve heard from a lot of trans* guys who worry that starting hormone therapy will turn them into incredibly aggressive and horny people who can’t control their anger or sex drives. I can’t answer for everybody, obviously, but I can say unequivocally that taking hormones didn’t change who I am inside—it just changed my body to better match that person. The first year of hormone replacement therapy, which for me meant weekly or biweekly injections of testosterone, is often equivalent to what adolescent cis males go through over a period of two to five years during puberty. While it’s really exciting to experience the “right” puberty, it’s filled with just as much awkwardness as the first time around, only everyone else grew out of their awkward phase years ago. As a 20-year-old summer camp counselor, I had worse acne than my 14-year-old campers. I was growing out of my shoes overnight, waking up aggressively scratching my stomach due to rapid hair growth, and squeaking whenever I tried to sing a Mariah Carey song.

When I compare my first puberty with my second one, I can say that testosterone definitely amped up my sex drive. I found that I was aroused more easily—by images of hot celebrities or porn or just watching my girlfriend contemplate what to write in a text message. If I randomly thought about something that turned me on, I had trouble willing myself to turn it off and think about something else. But this idea that men cannot help gluing their eyes to your ass as you walk down the street? I’m sorry, but that’s bullshit. The dosage of testosterone I was getting during certain early stages of my transition put my levels on the high end for males of any kind; and yet somehow I didn’t, and don’t, have to leer at people. Yes, I see attractive people on the street and I notice them, but I’m able to control myself. I’m not going to stop or stare, and I’m certainly not going to turn around and make someone feel like they’re playing out a fantasy in my head just by walking. It would make me as uncomfortable to do that as it did to be on the receiving end of those stares. And I don’t at all understand the urge to touch someone without consent; the idea alone makes me want to throw up.

So the next time someone tells you that “boys will be boys,” that guys just absolutely cannot help themselves from staring at, catcalling, or groping people, or, worse, that it’s your fault for wearing those shorts/that dress/something that announces that you have a body and are not made of pure air, don’t believe them. Boys will be whatever we want to be. And we have the power to decide what that is. ♦

66 Comments

  • sugarmilz March 14th, 2013 3:34 PM

    Cool article!

  • rosiesayrelax March 14th, 2013 3:42 PM

    This is a very unique piece, and it was really interesting that you’ve experienced both sides of sexual harassment. I don’t want to sound like an ignorant fool, but could Rookie do more stuff on transgender, because I don’t really understand it but I want to?

    http://rosieandthewolf.blogspot.co.uk/

    • firky March 14th, 2013 5:39 PM

      please do, Rookie!

    • Hannah March 14th, 2013 8:00 PM

      Rookie, I would love to read more stuff on this topic as well, because I feel like there’s so much out there I should/could know, and that it’s hard to understand.

    • Tyler March 14th, 2013 9:39 PM

      Send me a message on tumblr (open invitation to anyone who feels similarly) and let me know what you want to see! My URL is tylerthelatteboy

  • whatever March 14th, 2013 3:43 PM

    i’ve always hated that saying so much. it’s less of a saying than an excuse. society has embraced the idea that men should be free from the responsibilities of being a patriarch, while not letting go of the power. instead, we’ll just buy into the idea that ‘boys will be boys’. society promotes the idea that reasoning with men or asking them to fulfil their responsibilities /justify hitting you in the playground or pulling your bra strap or pinching your butt, is pointless.

    dani ☆☾☆☾☆☾☆☾☆☾
    http://rabbitandthewomp.blogspot.com/

  • trassel March 14th, 2013 3:44 PM

    Wonderful article. It was a really interesting read.

  • moonchild March 14th, 2013 3:45 PM

    This is an amazing article! For school, I’m in a debate about whether or not gender roles are beneficial to society (this is extremely infuriating, since this leaves half the kids having to argue that domestic abuse is ok, women belong in the home, and men are BORN more suited for success. UGHHHHDKDH) I was looking for articles about this (I’m the side that says gender roles are not beneficial, thank god) but it’s still frustrating! If anyone has any great articles about why gender roles are not beneficial, that would be GREATLY appreciated. If it’s ok, I think I’ll use this article as a source!

    Gwen
    http://under-a-bridge.blogspot.com/

    • Cranberry March 14th, 2013 7:53 PM

      I wrote a paper about gender roles and language a few months ago and I found Mary Talbots book “Language and Gender” (2010) pretty helpful. Maybe you can use it, even though it focuses on language. (I only read until page 48, not the whole book.)

    • wallflower152 March 15th, 2013 9:56 AM

      moonchild, there’s this podcast called Stuff Mom Never Told You and they talk about feminism, gender studies, women’s health etc. Great podcast. There is one in particular that may help you called “Are Gay Households More Egalitarian?” It’s about how in gay households the division of labor–careers, chores and child-rearing–is way more even than a typical hetero couple. The gay people in the studies they cited were happier in their relationships than the hetero couples because they felt more like equals. And this is all because the gay couples disregarded gender roles. But yeah good luck with your assignment, and if you just read the titles of their podcasts you should be able to find some more good info like they have some about gendered toys. I’ve talked about them in the comments before I promise I don’t work for them haha.

  • WitchesRave March 14th, 2013 3:49 PM

    Most fascinating article I’ve read it a long time, this should go viral!

    What an experience it must be to go through such a change, and it was really interesting more to see how OTHER people changed due to your gender..Shows that every single one of us has the power to stop gender stereotyping..

    witches-rave.tumblr.com/

  • Abby March 14th, 2013 4:28 PM

    LOVE LOVE LOVE.

  • stelliform March 14th, 2013 4:37 PM

    God bless this article.

  • stellariver March 14th, 2013 5:06 PM

    This is so accurate! Also, what people don’t usually mention is that girls get horny too. They want sex too. Why is it ok for boys to not control it and to still be looked as the same way. When if a girl said stuff like that, she would be called a slut. It just shows how society made these rules for boys and girls, and when they aren’t fallowed you get talked about badly or shamed.

    • lydiamerida March 14th, 2013 6:56 PM

      Yeah, I totally agree on the girls get horny too thing. Society says that “hot” girls have to sit there and be leered at and “ugly” girls have to sit there and be ridiculed without any say in the matter.

  • AlexaS March 14th, 2013 5:06 PM

    This is a really compelling article! You have a super unique perspective, and it’s well written, too… Thank you for sharing :)

  • notdarkyet March 14th, 2013 5:19 PM

    Relevant article on the state of masculinity (but you’ll need a strong stomach to watch the video linked to):
    http://prospect.org/article/toxic-masculinity

  • kikikaylen March 14th, 2013 5:23 PM

    This was a brilliant article from such a wonderful perspective. THANK YOU. It’s not biology; it’s society.

  • Katherine March 14th, 2013 5:29 PM

    Thank you for writing this!

  • carolineyall March 14th, 2013 5:40 PM

    THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR THIS.

  • billie March 14th, 2013 6:00 PM

    “Boys will be boys” is such a harmful attitude to have. It just sets people up for victim blaming and is so gross.

    Are we really supposed to believe that men are so poorly evolved that they can’t control their primal urges? Ugghhh, it’ insulting.

  • RhiaSnape March 14th, 2013 6:07 PM

    I really do love this article. It was so accurate, and I really think that it shows that boys and girls need to stop making excuses. We ALL feel urges, and we ALL have a choice on how to act upon those urges. There should be no ‘special exceptions’ based on our genders. Thank you Tyler!

  • meghanj March 14th, 2013 6:09 PM

    A really interesting read and perspective. Thank you again, rookie, for always being so great!

  • Roz G. March 14th, 2013 6:25 PM

    tyler I watched you on the Glee Project 2 and was sad to see you leave.. your rendition of Smile was beautiful… I was so suprised to find out you were writing for Rookie… that being said I absolutely ADORED this article… it’s so sensible and well written and it speaks so eloquently on a subject that has alwaaays bothered me alot
    cheers :)

  • Jes March 14th, 2013 7:09 PM

    thank you so much.

  • Kaetlebugg March 14th, 2013 7:15 PM

    THIS IS AN AMAZING ARTICLE. Thank you so much for being such an articulate & wonderful writer!!

  • RaineFall March 14th, 2013 7:33 PM

    So amazing!!! Thank you for sharing this, and giving such an informative view about it from both sides.

    It makes me realise how lucky I have been so far in regards to harassment. My sixth form was an old all-boys school, so we only had 20 girls in my year, but as far as I know, not one of us was harassed by anyone in our year. I don’t know if it was because I was there between the ages of 16-18, so everyone was a bit more mature than if I had attended a mixed school for secondary though.

    However I was pissed off when the younger boys would try to look up the skirts of girls who wore *really* short skirts and teachers would just brush it off as the skirt length was breaking school regulation anyway. Harassment is harassment no matter what.

  • ColoredSoft March 14th, 2013 7:58 PM

    I fucking love you Tyler

  • Hannah March 14th, 2013 8:02 PM

    Tyler, thanks for writing this. I’m so appreciative of how you express your views on gender roles, especially because of your unique experiences. I really love reading your articles and I can’t wait till you write another. You delve so deeply into why you think about things are certain way, and it’s nice.

  • Liz Nelums March 14th, 2013 8:02 PM

    Oh. My. God.
    Exactly.
    As a CIS female I’ve often wondered what it would be like to experience the world as a guy. There are so many layers of privilege and learned behavior that I can’t even fathom what it’s like to go through life as a boy must. As you said, stumbling home drunkenly (or even getting drunk in the first place) is a considerably dangerous thing for a woman to do in our society. Yet men and boys do it all the time, without thought, and also without the knowledge that they are part of the reason it is dangerous for a woman to do so.

    It all ties into our culture of victim blaming, objectification and rape culture. If men feel entitled to the time, energy, attention and body of every woman they deem attractive, then of course we’re going to have a society that tolerates atrocities like those committed in Steubenville. Those boys couldn’t even think of that poor girl as a person, and it’s all rooted in this constantly reinforced idea that they are not responsible for their actions. That their just being drunk boys and that it’s really all Her fault, because she’s a drunk girl.

    What. The. Fuck.

    Anyways, fucking amazing. This perfectly expressed what I’ve been trying to articulate to myself and my male friends for years. Thanks.

    Liz
    GYPSI

  • Emilie March 14th, 2013 8:06 PM

    This is awesome, what a fantastic perspective to be able to read about- thank you so much

  • z33zy March 14th, 2013 8:49 PM

    Excellent. Thank you for this.

  • kati March 14th, 2013 9:09 PM

    Thank you!!!!! this is the greatest article ever!!

  • TessAnnesley March 14th, 2013 10:33 PM

    Holy looooooord I love this so much
    Tyler is a better man than most of the men i’ve ever met
    BOW DOWN TO YOUR KING GENTLEMEN, HE CAN TEACH YOU A THING OR TWO

  • llamalina March 14th, 2013 11:19 PM

    this article was so interesting and unique. i love how rookie articles come from all different points of view.

    http://llamalina.blogspot.com

  • unefillecommetoi March 14th, 2013 11:48 PM

    This is an amazing article and I think you’re lucky for getting both perspectives.. I still can’t figure out what to do when you get yelled at on the street or stared at though.

    • Miarele March 15th, 2013 3:50 AM

      Second that. I’m still torn on how to react every time I got catcalled or bothered by someone in the street and public transportation. Or even, like in the article, how to respond in everyday situation when a guy friend made a “harmless joke” or said something suggestive. It’s too infuriating to just ignore and walk away, but on the other side it sometimes feel like getting angry only gives them more satisfaction.

      Perhaps Rookie could do an article on how to handle street harassment or sexual harassment in general?

  • unicornconnect March 15th, 2013 4:31 AM

    This is so interesting. I actually cannot comprehend why boys can say whatever they want and get away with it and then girls are judged straight away.

  • wallflower152 March 15th, 2013 10:31 AM

    First of all Tyler is awesome and I have so much respect for him. Second of all I know harassment is never ok. I’m kind of playing devil’s advocate here not trying to make excuses for things people do because in the end how they act is their fault alone, and I hope I can articulate this the way I see it in my head. Ok, so the whole “boys will be boys” thing starts in middle school or younger even, boys grow up thinking that it’s not only ok for them to do these kinds of things but that they are EXPECTED to do it. Wanting to fit in, they grab a butt and get a big cheer from their friends. Boys who don’t act this way are called “gay” or “pussies.” And this mindset is perpetuated and reinforced throughout adulthood. In Tyler’s article when that dude was telling him about a girl that didn’t wanna have sex with him Tyler said “she didn’t owe you anything” the dude replied “I thought you were a man.” That mindset is harmful to BOTH genders, it does not make a man less of a man when he respects a woman’s boundaries. We need to stop perpetuating this “boys will be boys” mindset and the only way we can do that is by speaking up when anyone male or female says/does something that is of this mindset.

    • Jen L. March 15th, 2013 7:56 PM

      Ugh, I hate it when people use the word “pussy” to degrade each other. It amazes me how detached we can be from the meaning of our own words.

  • afabrication March 15th, 2013 10:51 AM

    Thank you for writing this. I notice even my own boyfriend occasionally uses the “boys will be boys” excuse when he doesn’t feel like taking responsibility for his actions. And before, I wasn’t sure if it was just bothering me because I was being too sensitive. Now I know that my feelings are normal and I will express them the next time he does something the equivalent to snapping my bra strap.

  • Erin. March 15th, 2013 11:29 AM

    Everyone in the world should read this article. It should be mandatory. That some people do such awful things to others, without taking responsibility for their actions – without even THINKING about their actions before doing them – is revolting. I hope one day society will have improved to the point that people no longer have this unearned sense of privilege and superiority.

  • Mayabett March 15th, 2013 3:46 PM

    After reading this I looked up “how to respond to catcalls” (which comes up as a google suggestion, by the way).

    I saw a Huffington Post article by a woman, complaining about street harassment, and the comments are infuriating. So many men blamed her or said that they’re tired of hearing all these “victimization” stories and that things will never change.

    Link here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/erika-l-sanchez/responding-to-catcalls_b_1758392.html

    It makes me SO ANGRY.
    Sometimes I wish we could move all of these idiot sexists to their own little island.

  • GlitterKitty March 15th, 2013 6:45 PM

    Whoever came up with the idea for this article is a freaking genius. And Tyler is also a genius for writing this so well. It was completely fascinating and had a totally unique perspective that I had never even thought about before. Awesome.

  • Jen L. March 15th, 2013 7:53 PM

    Such honest and perceptive writing! Thank you :) I thought the part about suddenly possessing male privilege was really fascinating. Just the other week my high school had a self-defense class for girls only, and they basically told us we shouldn’t go anywhere alone. I wonder if there is any way to really understand/appreciate the privileges we possess without living in their absence for a while…

  • ivoire March 15th, 2013 11:38 PM

    This is such a good article!!!! My favourite this year.

  • farawayfaerie March 16th, 2013 8:44 AM

    Tyler is it weird that i find you going through puberty for a second time adorable? squeaking while trying to sing mariah carey, kewt! beautiful article x x

  • cammy-poo March 16th, 2013 3:44 PM

    Good article, and very true. However, as a guy, I think I have to point out that not all guys are like the guys described here. Everyone’s experience is different, but in my experience those types of guys are the minority. (not saying there’s not a sexism problem, because there is; one sexual assault is one too many).

  • girlhero March 16th, 2013 10:17 PM

    hi tyler; first off, your tumblr is amazing. second off, great article – the male gaze needs to be explored so much more deeply and from many different points of view, yours being a unique and well-articulated one indeed. I have a question though; I read loud and clear the point that “boys will be boys” is a really, really poor and unfounded excuse. Boys and men need to be reprimanded for the behavior that is so often written off as a hormonal fit or ‘just how they are’. I completely agree and thank you so much on behalf of all of us, boy or girl, who have felt unsure whether we had a right to feel angry or alienated by misogynistic practices that have been made light of. Fortunately, the amount of sexual harassment I’ve personally endured is pretty low. What really angers me about the male gaze is that because it reduces me to what men find valuable about me (how pretty I am and whether or not they want to have sex with me), I find that my humanity is overshadowed by every girl in a room that is more conventionally attractive than me. Am I making sense? Everybody can get caught up in the physical beauty of others, I understand that. But because the male mind seems to be so sexually charged (by way of nature and nurture) I think it gets way out of hand. As a 20-year-old college student, every boy I know can (and does) convince himself that a girl that he finds sexually attractive also has an array of personal qualities that he finds attractive like intelligence, compassion or individuality (whether she really has them or not). Can I really be angry about this?

    • Tyler March 18th, 2013 2:00 AM

      You don’t need anyone’s permission to feel any certain way about anything. If you’re angry, you have the right to own your anger, girlhero (I love your username – I sort of just wanna go around chanting it)! I don’t really know where to begin and end in terms of responding to this (I keep backspacing everything I write), but I do understand what you’re saying and how you’re feeling.

  • Narnia March 16th, 2013 10:39 PM

    “So the next time someone tells you that “boys will be boys,” that guys just absolutely cannot help themselves from staring, catcalling, or groping people, or, worse, that it’s your fault for wearing those shorts/that dress/something that announces that you have a body and are not made of pure air, don’t believe them”

    this kind of made me cry

  • xopaulxoxx March 17th, 2013 12:36 AM

    Very interesting, I enjoyed reading this article.. It‘d be great to know more about the topic on transgender. :)

  • Nikilodeon March 17th, 2013 4:44 AM

    wow. thank you tyler. i want to show this article to every dude who’s ever stared at me or invaded my personal space or made me feel uncomfortable. you’re awesome! :)

    • Tyler March 18th, 2013 2:06 AM

      PRINT IT OUT AND SHOVE IT IN THEIR FACES

      Maybe not but just wanna say UGH same and I want to print this out and give it to my middle/high school self. Or print a million copies and throw them all over the school Mean Girls Burn Book style.

  • MinaM8 March 17th, 2013 7:37 AM

    Just knowing that this kind of behavior is seen as acceptable makes me so, so, so upset!!!!!

  • Julian Siwek March 18th, 2013 10:32 PM

    Tyler, this article is amazing! As a Trans* guy myself I am always thinking these things. I also have a twin sister so when we go out anywhere it is very apparent how people, especially men, treat her and then treat me. It’s all based on your gender and how they see you. I’ve been on T for 5 years and how life has changed and how people perceive me is incredible. I used to really enjoy having those “super male” moments but now I sometimes resent them. I’m also very small (5’2) and sometimes I just can’t reach that lift or shovel all that snow! I also have a disability (amputations of fingers and toes) and even that treatment is so much different than when I identified as a female For me, after starting T and having that male privilege and living in the world as a man has changed my whole perspective of gender and society and just social etiquette in general.
    Again, thank you so much for this article.

  • Tony Walter March 20th, 2013 2:16 PM

    I agree 100%. I grew up along side plenty of those types of guys. I’ve never felt the insatiable need to gawk or grope. And I can’t stand the sort of blame shirking phrases like ‘boys will be boys’ does. Just, don’t be an asshole. It’s actually really easy.

  • Meg Shepardson March 20th, 2013 2:29 PM

    Tyler,

    I wish I could hug you. Thank you so much for this. I have had these painful arguments with 99% of my bf’s. i was shouted down, and shamed labeled a jealous bitch. Since it happened more than once I unfortunately recognized myself as the common denominator and thought I had a problem. I went to therapy!!! This article has released me from this identity. I’m not crazy, I was right.

    Thank you so much, Tyler.
    Meg

    • Tyler March 21st, 2013 1:52 AM

      Consider yourself hugged. <3 I totally understand/have been manipulated to feel like the problem in MANY situations. Glad this helped!

  • Sandra P March 20th, 2013 10:12 PM

    When I was in elementary school, a group of guys thought it would be funny to tie my hands behind my back, open my mouth and stuff a dirty sock that one of them found on the field. They all rallied around me in a circle with a ringleader cheering them on. Once that was done, I got loose and ran as fast as I could after the ring leader, and with my long nails, I tore his back apart. Because you could see blood on his back and he started crying, I was blamed for it. And I got in trouble and teachers even laughed at the whole situation because I now had “fungus germs”. No, that wasn’t rape but down the road it could have been. Boys will be boys, I guess! Crazy!

  • louise Eckersley March 24th, 2013 4:46 PM

    I am a single mum of a son. He’s 3.5. I’m 45. Thank you ROOKIE. What you offer to the world is invaluable. A voice from a generation/s who are souls that have arrived again, yet remember and have much to teach the previous generation/s of souls that forgot.

    This is a very profound article. Thank you Tyler. I know I will have to maintain my courage to raise a boy who respects himself first, and everyone else; regardless of gender.

    He has been meditating since he was in my tummy, so I hope this tool supports him in his courage, clarity and response-ability.

    Blessed wishes
    Louise

  • Kim Wagner March 30th, 2013 1:41 AM

    Wow, this was an excellent read! Thank you so much for writing this article, Tyler, and sharing your story.

  • Cameron McGlade May 14th, 2013 12:46 AM

    I LOVE this article. I’m in the gay straight alliance in my school, and I’m going to have to do a testimony on gender issues at my school, and I was thinking I’d base it on the issues brought up in this article. Everything you say I completely agree with. My problem is that it’s a mandatory meeting, so every teacher in the school will be there and I’m super nervous:p

  • Charlotte CallaGirl May 16th, 2013 6:20 AM

    All I can say is THANK YOU.

    http://thecallagirl.wordpress.com