Dear Diary

November 7, 2012

The difference between inside and out.

Katherine

There’s this episode of SpongeBob where Squidward uses a time machine, presumably to escape SpongeBob’s and Patrick’s antics. I don’t remember the episode very well, but somehow he ends up in some sort of parallel universe where he is surrounded by white nothingness. Every time he says something, a little speech bubble forms and floats into the air. Squidward interacts with this strange universe for a little bit before losing his mind and stomping his way out.

It’s truly horrifying. Also freaky! A lot of people have posted reverse or sped-up versions of it on YouTube, which I acknowledge isn’t legitimately frightening, but I will still probably fall asleep with my flashlight tonight. I’m legally an adult and am afraid of the dark and SpongeBob.

Squidward’s world of nothingness is how college feels to me right now. Like a white void. I’m not tied to much here. No dramas are unfolding, and I can’t list all of my classmates and give a description of each kid. Most of my interaction with people involves sitting at my computer or using my phone.

Basically, if my life were a film right now, it would consist of me quietly going about my business—in my dorm studying or watching Netflix. Someone once told me it was good to be that way, because in being cut off from the world, you figure out who you are: your likes, dislikes, interests, etc. But that’s not true. You figure out those things when you’re exposed to other people’s shit and have to interact with a world that you don’t and can’t control. Because that challenges you. It makes you think critically about things. I mean, in high school that was mostly just talking to kids about the Kardashians or dubstep. But at least it pulled me out of the little world inside my head. (JK, high school sucked major balls.)

I guess I just feel weird this week because I feel like I don’t really have a clear sense of identity right now. I am like a cartoon character without the black borders. Maybe I’m used to relying on other people’s perceptions of me to define who I am. But also, maybe I’m sick of this void and need to stomp my way out and get back to Bikini Bottom, which is anywhere but my dorm room. ♦

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22 Comments

  • bugaleeto November 7th, 2012 7:15 PM

    Katherine, i totally get what your saying. Sometimes I feel as though I’m just a cardboard cut-out, without any thoughts, tastes, etc. of my own. It makes me really sad and paranoid. I’m probably crazy. Feeling like your not connected to anything is the perfect description of how I feel..

    • bugaleeto November 7th, 2012 7:16 PM

      eek so many grammatical mistakes on my part..

    • kcreads November 7th, 2012 10:57 PM

      I completely know what you mean! Especially if too much of my brain is taken up reading/watching netflix/absorbing all the awesome things on the Internet, rather than actually focusing on connections out in the world…

  • vintagewhimsy November 7th, 2012 7:17 PM

    Ruby – I know how you feel! My mom pays very close attention to what I wear and tries to discourage me from wearing anything too crazy. I still wear what I want to though.

    Britney – I’m sorry that you were affected by the hurricane! It sounds awful. You should just dress up as Suzy anyway for school.

    http://vintagereverie.wordpress.com

    • vintagewhimsy November 7th, 2012 8:09 PM

      Like Luna Lovegood and her lion hat!

  • Tiger November 7th, 2012 8:00 PM

    Oh Britney that Raven costume was such a good idea, so sorry Halloween was canceled. I hope things get better for you guys in NYC.

    And Ruby… way to be strong :)

  • ladyjenna November 7th, 2012 8:38 PM

    Hey Ruby! Totally sympathize here.

    There seems to be another underlying problem; maybe he feels like he can’t help with your depression and needs to control you elsewhere.

    “This seems like a really small thing, but it makes me happy. Is the problem you have a justifiable reason to take this one harmless thing that makes me happy?”

    Write a letter to him, detailing the reasons. People find it easier to handle written arguments. BUT HERE’S THE THING: ask him once – maybe say to only wear it one day a week, or some other compromise – but then ACCEPT WHAT HE SAYS because that means you are MATURE and OBEDIENT.

    If his response is negative, get your therapist to talk with him. Find out what his real issue is, cause the ones he gave don’t sound like real reasons, and the real reason might be a good one.

    You’re the greatest, Ruby…hope this turns out well

  • AnaRuiz November 7th, 2012 8:55 PM

    Today’s background is INSANELY cool.

    http://www.anaruizwriting.blogspot.com

  • actressgirl November 7th, 2012 9:03 PM

    Ruby,
    Someone once told me that I had a different look every day. She didn’t mean it in a bad way or anything but to me it just meant that dressed based on what I was in the mood for that day. So if you feel like black lipstick then I say go for it.

  • Aria November 7th, 2012 10:39 PM

    Naomi, I feel the same way.

  • Kathryn November 8th, 2012 12:01 AM

    CAITLIN’S DIARY OMG

  • Emily November 8th, 2012 12:31 AM

    Katherine I ,
    That is,
    You are telling my story.
    Except for netflix, because I don’t know our accounts password.

    I know the names of 4 of 20 girls on my floor, and one girl from my classes would return a wave if I were to see her on the street.

    Every nine or so days I eat dinner with another person, my roommate, in the Cafeteria,

    so basically everyday after class I go on ‘Stereomood’, find the “Cute”, “sweet” or “happy” playlist and just run around my dorm room dancing like an idiot and singing like a parrot to hold myself together.

    Then I clean my room because that’s therapeutic for some reason (along with wearing floral and leopard print idk it’s liberating because it’s so wrong).

    So my question for Expert Ladies out there,
    Should I be mean? It seems like the only girls around here with plural friends have faces permanently set in this >:[

  • Melisa November 8th, 2012 2:45 AM

    Naomi, I understand how it feels. But in my case, I go in cycles. Sometimes I’m really confident and loud, other times I dislike myself so much that I shut myself from my friends. I think what I need to do is put my self-esteem on things that are permanent.

  • eikcaj November 8th, 2012 2:37 PM

    I totally understand how you feel, Katherine. I sort of am going through the same thing, which is a bit embarrassing to admit, given that I stopped being a freshman some time ago. (I’m a sophomore.) Sure, some days are nice and fun, but on the whole my college experience has been just ‘fine’…a mere continuation of an uneventful high school experience (granted, at least high school didn’t provide these bouts of identity crisis and the like). But it’s just depressing to think that this is what my college years will be like.

    @Emily: There are SO many girls like that in my campus. I don’t understand. Is it that difficult to smile? Heh.

  • kavvvka November 8th, 2012 7:34 PM

    Katherine, I’m a freshman in college going through the exact same thing. It’s comforting to know that I’m not alone. I have no advice except don’t worry because it get’s better???that’s what everyone keeps telling me at least. here’s to hoping!

  • airplanes.books November 9th, 2012 7:58 PM

    RUBY KEEP WEARING YOUR BLACK LIPSTICK, they can’t scrub your mouth. i hate when parents try to dictate their childrens’ personal style, especially when its just developing and becoming something that actually makes them happy, creative, and an individual!

  • stellar November 12th, 2012 9:22 PM

    what’s the point of having a life if it’s being lived thru others’ wishes? those people just need a reality check.

  • NF4awesome November 13th, 2012 11:00 PM

    Ruby! I want to see how your black lipstick looks, and how you wear it! I think it could be a bit intense for me…

  • 3LL3NH November 15th, 2012 4:10 PM

    Naomi, I love what you said about romance with yourself. It’s such a solid, happy feeling. And your last paragraph made so much good sense; I love realizing that.

  • Lizmaster3000 November 24th, 2012 11:10 PM

    KATHERINE highschool sucked balls. big, holy, hairy, christian balls.

  • Cutesycreator aka Monica January 15th, 2013 2:09 PM

    OH MY GOD THAT’S ONE OF MY FAVORITE EPISODES OF SPONGEBOB EVER. I think about it more often than I should. And whenever I try to think about nothing if I’m trying to go to sleep, it never works, because I always picture that white room, with words appearing in the air in different colors and fonts, and then I start thinking about Spongebob, and then I can’t sleep. It’s a vicious cycle.

    Ruby, I hope you work things out with your dad about the black lipstick! It really sucks when your parents don’t let you wear things that you want to :( Best of luck!