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Winter coats, worrisome stretch marks, and more talk of boobs.

I have been looking for a coat for so very long. I’m in college in Minnesota, and I know layers are key, but I want a pretty coat! I currently have a peacoat from Land’s End, but I think it makes me look bulky, and it’s boring. Also, I’m tiny (4′11″). Help?

Many moons ago, I was on a search for the perfect red peacoat, but it never came my way, so I settled for a boring black one from the Gap. Luckily, the retail gods heard my cries, and now there are pretty peacoats everywhere! Since I live in L.A., I must thank you for letting me live vicariously through you by helping you find your perfect winter coat.

First, don’t think you have to settle for a “safe” color, like black. Yes, it’s classic, but if you want something that makes a statement, go for bright. This J. Crew coat comes in a variety of fun colors. Or else choose a coat with a cute pattern, like this plaid number from ModCloth. Keep an eye out for interesting details, like faux fur, lace collars, bold buttons, or contrasted trim. As for your petite frame, you can always take it to a tailor for a custom fit. But let’s say you do find a great-fitting coat in black or navy: you can always jazz that baby up with scarves, vintage brooches, patterned tights, and funky shoes. Maybe you can even sew a secret pocket inside to keep your switchblade comb or emergency Fun Dip! —Marie

Clockwise from top left: Majesty, $208, J. Crew; Met Your March, $109, ModCloth; Dynamic Duotone, $105, ModCloth; Mulberry Scones, $200, ModCloth; I Heart Plaid, $278, ModCloth; fur-collar coat, $140, Asos

Hi! I like thrifting, and I live a pretty ethical lifestyle. I was wondering if thrifting is ethical, since there is a chance that the clothing could be sweatshop-made? Thank you. —Ember, Maryland

I think it is so, so cool that you’re making a conscious effort to live an ethical lifestyle. In a world economy where making money is the most important thing—trumping, say, human rights and fair labor practices—putting thought into where your dollars go is, IMHO, a great way to use one of the only voices we have as consumers to make a change.

Now, thrifting: you bet your life that there are clothes in thrift stores everywhere that have been made in factories and/or sweatshops. But I believe the good outweighs the bad. Since you are not buying the clothes new, from a retail store, your consumer dollars are quieter. They do not go to the stores that tolerate deplorable work environments in the interest of cheap labor, which means your money isn’t creating a demand for more badly manufactured clothing. Instead, it goes to the thrift stores themselves. Some thrift stores are local. Some are chains. Many are charities. Lots of them offer job opportunities to people who need job-training skills, people that sometimes have a hard time getting jobs in other places, and by supporting those thrift stores, you are helping to create those jobs. But there can be other factors. I myself try not to shop at the Salvation Army, because the Salvation Army has a problem with gay people, but you can decide which thrift stores are worthy of your money.

Another bonus: thrifting is recycling. You are buying clothes that might have otherwise been tossed into landfills. So many articles of clothing are in perfect condition; people get rid of appalling amounts of barely used stuff. You are giving a garment new life, instead of buying something new, and I think that’s lovely. There are people who argue that if you’re not broke or poor, thrifting is stealing from those who really need the clothes at those prices, but have you been inside a thrift store lately? There is no shortage of clothes.

So I think thrifting is a great way to be eco-conscious while not creating a demand for more crappy labor practices. But obviously, it’s up to you. —Krista

Thanks to Rookie, I’m getting better about loving my body, but my thighs are still a problem spot for me. I wear so many dresses to cover them, but it’s hard to wear dresses all the time, so I really want to find shorts and skirts that work. The problem is that if they are too short, my thighs will look extra big when I sit in the tiny desks at my high school, and I feel extremely self-conscious. And since I live in Florida, jeans are not an option. If you have any advice, I would greatly appreciate it.

Darling, I have me some thick thighs, and I’m still strutting around in whatever and whenever! I tend to break “the rules” when it comes to dressing for my body. I have short, thick legs and wear things I’m apparently not supposed to, like combat boots and short skirts, because I like them, and I feel comfortable in them! I’m not saying you have to do this, too, but please don’t be afraid of wearing something just because your thighs touch. I personally like wearing my shorts with tights. Depending on what you pair with them, you can go for a cute chorus-girl look, with high-waisted shorts, patterned tights, and a chunky-heeled spectator shoe. You can also try something a little more badass, with ripped black tights, frayed jean shorts, and a leather jacket. Either way, wearing tights helps prevent ye olde chub-rub, if that’s a problem for you like it is for moi!

In terms of skirts, I’d go with a length that is a couple of inches above the knee. Also, try to find a “fit and flare” skirt, which means one that is fitted at the waist and flares out at the bottom. This looks good on everyone, and you can see a couple of examples from Pinup Girl Clothing here and here. But if you want to be more casual, try wearing a T-shirt with an A-line skirt. Hope that helps! —Marie

So my boobs are small, but I like them that way. Now that I’m getting older, I feel ready to show them off a bit more. Do you have any advice for artistic, pretty ways to present my chest?

I am so happy to hear my small-chested sisters embrace their shape—it took me years to stop being self-conscious about my own chest size. First things first: have you considered ditching your bra? If you don’t need one, life is way more comfortable without it. I gave up wearing mine after reading an interview with the artist Astria Suparak, who said, “I hate the popular conception of an ideal breast as a nipple-less half-sphere.” Amen. The first few times I went braless, I was super self-conscious, especially in, you know, cold rooms. But it’s way easier to wear certain styles of tops, including anything backless or with a plunging neckline. If anybody tries to shame you for it, roll your eyes and tell them to grow up. If you are shy about not wearing a bra, try replacing it with a tank top or undershirt, and then see how you feel after a couple of weeks. Soon enough you probably won’t care.

If you prefer to go the bra route, there are so many cute options when support isn’t your main concern. Consider investing in a few frilly undergarments to wear with sheer blouses. Asos has a good selection, and American Eagle has frequent sales. Or, when the weather’s warm, think about wearing a bandeau, sports bra, or bralet as a top with a high-waisted skirt, like Meg from the blog Good Morning Midnight. Topshop has a wide selection, depending on how much skin you’re comfortable showing.

Finally, my fellow Rookie Naomi directed me to this fun blouse by LoveTits. —Anna

Even though I’m only 13, I already have pretty bad stretch marks on my shoulders, arms, and upper back. Because of this, I refuse to wear tank tops or any shirt that shows them. Any advice on how to make the stretch marks fade or go away? Or at least how to cover them up? —Meg

There are a few ways to approach this. In terms of making them go away, regular use of products like Bio-Oil, vitamin E oil, and cocoa butter (I like plain old Palmer’s) has been proven to help reduce the appearance of stretch marks and scars. But you have to be diligent about applying the product of your choice at least two times a day.

There are some pricier options that might have more-immediate results. If you have the option of consulting a dermatologist, you should do so. They’ll probably mention laser therapy, like pulsed-dye laser (PDL) treatments. As this is a cosmetic procedure, it probably won’t be covered by your insurance, and can cost thousands of dollars, but people who have used it have met with varying success. Combining procedures like this along with the products above is almost guaranteed to make a difference.

If you want to cover you marks in the meantime, consider shopping for tops with a quarter-length sleeve. For example, this striped one from Forever 21 is a stylish take on the classic sailor top, and it will keep your arms covered without stifling you in the warmer months.

Finally, I want you to know that my legs are covered in scars from years of scratching and picking at my skin. Sounds gross, right? Well, I did feel embarrassed about it at first, but the truth is we all have scars and marks and spots and dots that make us who we are. Generally, no one is even looking that closely at them. I know it’s easier said than done, but you will realize that your stretch marks don’t define you. So if all else fails, keep your head up and embrace them as little quirks. You’re only human, and so is everyone else. —Hannah ♦

If you have a style/beauty question for Marie & her Rookie team, please send it to beautyandstyle@rookiemag.com.

46 Comments

  • Hannah October 9th, 2012 11:15 PM

    I feel you on the thighs and strech marks one.

    For the dresses girl, I’d also recommend light weight capris, like khakis? They’re cute and preppy if that you’re style, and can be easy breezy.

    Also, I’ve grown to ignore my marks and people notice them lots less if you’re not trying to hide them.

  • Juli October 9th, 2012 11:21 PM

    I totally identify with the third letter, as I’m sure many girls and women do. I have these heavenly red Calvin Klein shorts that I love to death, but sometimes ma curves are too much for them and end up bulging all over the place, especially in the upper thigh region. But like Marie said, sometimes we just have to get over these things and embrace ourselves, dammit!

  • raggedyanarchy October 9th, 2012 11:24 PM

    Hannah, my legs are covered in marks from scars and scabs too! I used to wear jeans all the time to hide them, because everyone else had nice smooth legs and mine were pockmarked with bruises and shaving catastrophes and cat scratches and what have you. After a while, it got kind of tiresome because I live in Mississippi where it gets hot in the summer. So one day I just started wearing shorts and skirts again and no one even noticed the marks.

    • Loops October 13th, 2012 8:27 AM

      I think scars and bruises are bad-ass! I love them.

  • leavesofyggdrasil October 9th, 2012 11:24 PM

    I shop at Salvation Army all the time, cause my local store is really huge and always has good clothes, but I always feel really bad about it. I figure that at least my store is helping people get jobs, etc, so that’s something, but I still feel terrible about the whole anti-gay thing.

    • snowbird October 10th, 2012 12:22 PM

      Salvation Army also has a lot of great programs to help rehabilitate people with substance abuse problems. So, while the anti-gay sentiment is definitely not great, there are some good social programs that your thrifting money goes to.

      • Nickysperanza October 10th, 2012 11:49 PM

        That’s very true! And we can’t condemn the people that benefit bc the owners of a certain chain have opinions we don’t find pleasing. A tbh everyone has a right to their own beliefs…even if they aren’t fair.

  • marit October 9th, 2012 11:29 PM

    a peacoat is the best investment ever! i’ve had my cobalt blue peacoat from delia’s (it’s lined, so it’s a bit warmer than normal ones) for five years now :)

  • jesus_chan October 9th, 2012 11:50 PM

    Lovin’ all the pretty peacoats in the first answer! Some great choices there, Marie! Living in Canada, the weather here is perpetually PMSing, so I have a wide selection of coats and jackets. I currently have a pretty boring grey trench, but might now be inspired to look for something new – perhaps thrifted? Thanks for the inspiration.

    Leeza xxx

    http://chemical-butter.tumblr.com/

  • youngfridays October 9th, 2012 11:57 PM

    But what do I do if I have big-ish boobs? (12DD au)
    I’m really self concious about that because I used to get called out a lot in the streets and have started to wear really, really baggy clothing because of it.
    Ugh *sob* what do I do?

    • Blythe October 10th, 2012 1:42 AM

      My fellow DD lady, do not despair! First off, people who call out like that on the street are assholes and their opinions don’t matter. HOWEVER, that doesn’t mean they don’t get to you. So! I generally go the route of wearing whatever the hell I want. However, if you want to show off your boobs without being BOOBS I recommend finding some really fitted T-shirts. Like, you know, ones with the normal high neck, but they fit close to your figure? They look so good while still being modest. And you can always go for a tank top under something low-cut! You could do, like, some cute color-blocking there. And maybe go for blouses that have, like, a big distracting bow on them? Or put something on your head, or wear bright bottoms, to draw attention away from your boobs. I dunno, I hope this helps.

  • err inn October 10th, 2012 12:08 AM

    Good advice all around, but I have to know where the image associated with this post and the post on tumblr is from. Both she and her coat look amazing and I want to give proper props to that pea-coated person.

  • Abby October 10th, 2012 12:13 AM

    Yeah… I feel you guys on the thighs and the stretch marks, spots, scars, what have you. I have all of these, and I used to be SUPER self-conscious about them. To the point that I wore way too much clothing in the summer in order to cover them up. And makeup, on my face anyway. And although I’m still self-conscious about them, I honestly have just stopped caring if other people can see them. College does that to you. Before I came, I would have died if someone outside of my family and best friends saw me in what I’m wearing now (a short bathrobe, sports bra, and a zitty, makeup-less face). But now? I just walked down the hall (and talked to a few people) in my dorm. I’ve kind of stopped caring as much haha. And I’ve realized that although it might seem like everyone is scrutinizing your every imperfection, they aren’t. You are. They’re probably busy thinking you are scrutinizing their every imperfection. Anyway, I guess the point of this long rant was that at some point, it becomes easier to accept that everyone has their little imperfections (even if they seem perfect), and that not EVERYONE is looking at you all the time. So love yourself, DAMMIT!!! Lol.

    • Abby October 10th, 2012 12:16 AM

      ALSO, I just got a really nice new wool coat (it’s red and thigh-length) at Burlington’s Coat Factory… if you’re willing to sift through a TON of coats and really look, Burlington’s has a lot of good stuff. And if you have one near you ha.

  • taste test October 10th, 2012 12:29 AM

    excellent description of why thrifting is awesome! I have a special place in my heart for local charity thrift stores. they’re small and jumbled and packed with weird stuff, and they support good causes, too! doesn’t get much better than that.

    just out of curiosity, what do all you lovely fellow commenters think about buying leather/fur products from thrift stores? I’ve gotten into heated debates with friends over this. is it ok because you’re recycling and not supporting the fur/leather industry, or is it just not cool to wear animal skins, thrifted or otherwise?

    • Blythe October 10th, 2012 1:44 AM

      I only wear leather (not a huge fan of how fur looks) if it’s vintage/thrifted. In fact, I think the only leather thing I own right now is a Pencil Skirt of Sexy. I mean, the animal’s already died, so you might as well wear something old rather than buying a new thing.
      And I’m a vegetarian.

  • elizab October 10th, 2012 12:36 AM

    I’m so glad Rookie’s advertising the bra-less route! I havn’t worn one for the longest time becuase they are SO UNCOMFORTABLE and frankly I don’t need them. I’m also super-sensitive to clothes, which may be a factor… something really nice to wear without a bra is a waistcoat.
    All the others I identified with too! Basically I have a skinny knobby knees and elbows with hideous green bruises. And then I have Gimongo Bony Hips. I’m not really self-concious about them but they certainly make it hard for me to find pants that a) fit over my rear; b) aren’t way too long (I’m five-foot) and c) don’t have an enormous waist gap.
    And peacoats are amazing.

  • Justin Case October 10th, 2012 12:43 AM

    For my fellow small-boobed girls: I second the bra ditching!
    I never really liked bras and never actually needed them for comfort, I just used them to camouflage what I thought were disgraceful, annoyingly perky areolas.

    Then I suddenly stopped caring. Goodbye pinkish marks on my skin! Goodbye that corset feeling and the relief of taking it off at home! Goodbye ever-falling straps!

    And hello fresh air and freedom!

    Apart from some gentle mockery from my friends when they noticed (about having no backless-dress or high summer heat worries), I’ve had no negative feedback, no one blatantly staring at my chest, and none of the ”saggy”, helpless boobs I was promised.
    My breasts are not aseptized, uniform globes, and I was quite happy freeing myself from letting people believe that.

    I find that just bringing a silk scarf of light jacket if you’re concerned about see-through is so much easier than getting that slavery instrument on.

    • HeatherB October 10th, 2012 1:11 PM

      Amen, sister. My life is so much more comfortable sans bra.

  • ICantThinkOfAUsername October 10th, 2012 12:51 AM

    Meg – I totally feel you on the stretch marks. I have tons of them all over my stomach, hips, and thighs, and I used to be so ashamed of them. I tried cocoa butter and BioOil, and I’m pretty sure a couple of other home-made remedies that I picked up from ol’ Doctor Google. Nothing really worked for me, and I was convinced that I would have these marks for the rest of my life and that nobody would ever love me for it. About a year or so ago, however, I just stopped caring. My marks started to fade, and though they’re still visible I hardly ever notice them. Another thing that really helped me to get over my stretch mark loathing was that I started noticing them on other girls – awesome, confident girls who didn’t seem to care about showing them. I realised that stretch marks are super, super common, and that so many people get them that its pointless trying to cover them. I now haven’t thought once about my stretch marks in over a year, and while I completely understand your desire -and your right- to get rid of yours I hope you don’t do anything drastic/expensive (like laser therapy – I don’t really know what that entails but it sounds scary!!) because your marks will fade a little with age, and I hope that you will stop fretting about them a little as well :)

  • Blythe October 10th, 2012 1:47 AM

    It just seems so weird to me that people are saying bras are uncomfortable. Like, gosh, I can’t not wear a bra! It hurts too much. I wonder if it’s because I have big, perky boobs? (Can’t believe I just typed that.) But maybe you were wearing the wrong size (EVERYONE EVER NEEDS TO GO GET FITTED FOR A BRA IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE OKAY) or maybe it’s a small boob thing?

    • stealthkitten October 10th, 2012 2:56 AM

      I think it must be a small-boob thing. I can’t even fill out an A and I hate bras with a firey passion. I don’t need the support (because there is nowhere for them to go), but I wear them to stop my chest from proclaiming HELLO I’M COLD all the time.

    • I.ila October 10th, 2012 12:07 PM

      I know, i feel the same way. When i don’t wear a bra and i go down stairs it hurts! And bra fittings are amazing if you get them done in a good place, not somewhere were they’re just trying to sell extra bras.

    • Justin Case October 13th, 2012 10:43 AM

      I guess it’s possibly a small-boob thing: mine look a bit like a comma upside-down, which makes for a lot of vacant space inside a bra designed to house globe-shaped racks, and that must be a common problem.

      Mostly, however, I’d always felt like some measure of freedom had been taken away from me with bras, regardless of fit: breathing space, freedom of movement, the ability to feel the fabric of my clothes, and marks and chafing on my skin, which is very sensitive.

      The hardest thing to go against was the feeling that by showing the real shape of my chest – which, with its upside-down comma look, has nothing to do with common standards of round, nipple-less symmetrical beauty – the whole world would be like OMG HIDE THOSE THINGS YOU DEFORMED MONSTROUS WOMAN.
      And that didn’t happen, fortunately, but I was happy to take a stand against that.

      So what if people can tell I’m cold? I have nipples. I also have eyes, a nose, and hair on the top of my head. I breathe, I’m a human. Get over it.

      (Sorry, I think I could talk about bralessness and its politics forever!)

      PS: So point is, because of physiological reasons as well as issues of body affirmation, I’m much, much happier without a bra. And clothes fit better too!

  • katiekentuckyyyy October 10th, 2012 2:11 AM

    Grammatical note(!): There’s no apostrophe in the phrase “sports bra.” Just saying!

  • mews October 10th, 2012 3:10 AM

    Anyone feeling self-conscious about their thighs and wearing shorts should take inspiration from Lena Dunham (as per usual!)

    http://fashionista.com/2012/10/lena-dunham-to-her-no-pants-critics-i-am-going-to-show-my-thighs-every-day-till-i-die/

  • Miarele October 10th, 2012 5:06 AM

    I live for coats! I practically used up all of my pocket money once just to buy what I thought to be the PERFECT trench coat even though it’s not even the season. I’m saving up to buy another coat though, is a peacoat really more versatile and a better investment than a trench?

    N.B.: The coat in the cover/preview pic is super adorable (even the girl is adorable), where is it from? :)

  • allyishere October 10th, 2012 8:11 AM

    I have tiny boobs and gosh darn do I love them. my collection of lace, underwire free bras is beginning to border on obsession and I have no regrets.
    long live body acceptance.

  • victoria October 10th, 2012 8:11 AM

    aaaaaaaah best advice

  • missmadness October 10th, 2012 9:46 AM

    Another tip for buying shorts is to buy up a size. For whatever reason, lots of shorts are designed to be super tight/short, which is fine most of the time, but sometimes you need something not quite as, uh, fabulous. If you buy a size up and wear a cute belt, you can alleviate some of the skin tightness.

    Also, buying shorts in bright colors (my favorite pair is bright purple from target) distract from anything you’d rather not draw attention to.

  • ShockHorror October 10th, 2012 12:36 PM

    Also a shorter lady of 4’11″ here!

    I have a oat similar in shape to the pink one there but in green.

    My only tip is to not care that you’re short.

    Since y’know unless I wear tall shoes I’m fooling nobody.
    And take up your trousers if you can ;D

  • ShockHorror October 10th, 2012 12:43 PM

    Also, to Hannah, I too am an atrocious arm-picker.

    Any tips on how to stop?

    I stick plasters on bigger scabs to stop me ripping off half my arm skin but then I just start on a new patch.

    It’s starting on the back of neck, my back and my legs and I can’t stop myself D:

  • ghoststakepolaroids October 10th, 2012 2:01 PM

    i totally feel ya girl on the stretch marks,
    fortunately mine are on my thighs and lower body so i can hide them easily, but when ever i look at them i just think to myself
    ‘thanks puberty for ruining my body.’

  • Petra October 10th, 2012 2:45 PM

    For stretch marks, Tamanu oil is amazing. I use a really great raw and organic moisturizer with tamanu oil and shea butter called Rawnessa. Seriously a miracle.

  • RhiaSnape October 10th, 2012 3:48 PM

    Love this, and the advice is just as good on in the comments! So thank you for that my fellow rookies.
    I also have the ‘oh my god why do my thighs look like this’ problem when I put on shorts. I love shorts, skirts and dresses but often end up wearing jeans which do nothing for my figure either, but i feel more comfortable in somehow. I wish i didn’t care, but it really doesn’t help when you’re 15 and every single image that you see of someone who is supposed to be ‘perfect’ has thighs that have a massive gap inbetween them. We should have some kind of movement to get the media to show models with thighs that touch, because people are going to start thinking it’s not normal.

  • Anjali N October 10th, 2012 4:32 PM

    I was super self-conscious about my stretch-marks too, but then I started to wear shorts and I completely forgot about them. You’ll waste a lot of energy panicking over them, when you can just forget about them. No one else gives a flying fluff about your stretch marks. :-)

    BTW – I talked to my dermatologist about my stretch marks once and she recommended Mederma (it’s the scar-removal cream you get at the drugstore).

  • SincerelyWrong October 10th, 2012 5:03 PM

    Totally sympathize with the thigh and stretch-marks letter.
    I used to avoid anything above the knee because I disliked my legs so much, but this past summer I finally snapped. It was so warm, and I bike everywhere, and it’s easier to bike in Summer when a) you’re not dying from heatstroke and b) your knees are not constricted, making pedaling easier.
    So I bought some shorts. Bought some more. I now love shorts, and actually feel a lot more comfortable in them than long pants. X) Stretch-marks be damned, pale skin that never tans, and fuzzy legs (shaving is not my idea of a good time) have no effect anymore. When Summer returns, these thunder thighs will be on display once more, and biking will be lots of fun.
    Don’t give up on yourself; I thought I would never get over my legs, and tada, I did! Might not be now, might not be for awhile, but if you keep chipping away at your insecurities, someday you may wake up and realize you’re beautiful in all your scarred, splotchy, bulgy glory.

  • saramarit October 10th, 2012 5:08 PM

    Anyone who is thinking of ditching their bras should consider donating them to Oxfam. They are sent to Senegal where bras aren’t usually available and help the women there create small buisnesses selling them. Another offshoot is that because of certain false beliefs held by some men in this country the women who wear bras are less likely to be raped. https://www.oxfam.org.uk/donate/shops/bra-hunt_frip-ethique.html

  • periwinkle_dreams October 10th, 2012 7:37 PM

    I loved the third post so much! I was never self-conscious about my 32-Cs till I was 16, when I was informed by a girl in my chem class in front of awkwardly laughing guys that’s “too small”. After that I wore push-up bras for a year straight (SO uncomfortable!). I even dated a guy semi-recently who commented off-hand in the middle of a conversation that, chest-wise, I was comparable to a middle school girl (he didn’t last long). Um, excuse me?? My body is fully grown and there are actual adult WOMEN with boobs like mine! Why can’t women just have the boobs they have without everyone feeling like they have the right to comment?
    Anyways, I haven’t tried the no bra thing, but I’ve actually found that going in the other direction helped me get my self-confidence back: now, I wear super pretty, frilly bras with awesome lace and bows and stuff, and it makes me feel really sexy and womanly, even though I don’t wear them for anyone to see but me. And I’d rather have confidence than someone else’s ideal body type.

  • Guinevere October 10th, 2012 8:15 PM

    I’ve been reading Rookie for a while, and haven’t commented on anything, but I just HAD to make one so I could comment on this article.

    First of all, the picture for the article on the homepage: c’est parfait! I love J.Crew. The entire shoot they just did in Tokyo was amazing! This photograph is my favorite (the colors!): http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-tNQfXKSWxaQ/UFnrZY6EopI/AAAAAAAAF4s/FL7sYv3hv60/s640/J.Crew+Tokyo+Travels+colourful+bright+pink+winter+coat.jpg

    Also, I LOVE winter clothes. Living in Arizona (UGH), I pretty much never get to wear heavy, thigh-length coats, but I still go through J.Crew and Land’s End catalogs, looking longingly at all of the jackets.

  • whatpoem October 10th, 2012 8:31 PM

    stretch marks: i had a bit of an issue with them after going on the pill and gaining a bit of weight. i went to my dermatologist and she gave me a ton of Retin-A-Micro samples. My stretch marks were gone within 2-3 months and I didn’t even have to buy the product, samples alone did the trick. may be worth a try for you!

  • wanderluster66 October 10th, 2012 10:56 PM

    It’s posts like these that make me love rookie and love being me. The advice on not wearing a bra is sooo true (even though the frilly stuff is so much fun too). Being a proud 34A I’ve been self-conscious doing it before, but omg does it feel amazing. That quote totally has given me the confidence to try it again really really soon!!!

  • knittingrid October 11th, 2012 7:46 PM

    re: stretchmarks – they fade pretty quickly, and anyway, they’re from growth spurts, right? My 9 year-old daughter got them when she was 7, and now they’ve faded. And for mothers, they’re a record of our pregnancy. Scars are part of our autobiography; there are incidents I wouldn’t remember except that I have a scar that prompts a story. Like the time my boss at the deli sharpened the cheese knife without telling me and I ended up with 3 stitches in my hand. AND I had to walk to the doctor’s office myself, because it was lunch and the deli was really busy… See – good little story!

  • cicconeyouth October 12th, 2012 3:34 PM

    I’m 5’0″, so I’m a member of the Tiny Club. Jackets can be rough because it looks like I’m wearing my dad’s coat if I buy many of the longer options at the store. My biggest issue is that sleeves are ALWAYS too long on me, which is something I have to consider with all long-sleeved clothing. I have obligerated many cardigans from pushing up the sleeves too often – 3/4 sleeves are my BFF, as well are sleeves that can be easily folded up.

    I suggest looking in the petite section at stores like Kohl’s and JCPenney. Often, petite departments carry old lady-ish clothing (I’m talking to you, elastic waist polyester pants!) but I’ve found that winter coats are the great equalizer. Leopard prints, peacoats, plaids, and more are all possible. They’re built way better for those of us who are low-to-the-ground. Note that some petite clothing is intended for about 5’2″ to 5’4″, meaning we’re still a little small for it.

    I’ve also shopped at army surplus shops a million times. They have killer jackets (two words: LINDSAY. WEIR.) and often have most options in children’s sizes that are way bigger than most kid’s clothing in normal stores. Plus, the prices are unbeatable for green army jackets with furry hoods and adorable sailor peacoats.

  • Loops October 13th, 2012 8:39 AM

    I used to not wear bikinis for three reasons – my hips were too wide (especially for my age), my stomach and back were too hairy, and I had stretch marks on my inner thighs and kind of, below my hips on my sides (I don’t really know how to explain it). People used to (and still do) point out the hair, which is, God bless, blonde and the stretch marks. Now I just pull my best bitchface and go “so?” And they feel like COMPLETE DOUCHEBAGS. So hang in there, dears.