Me and You and Everyone We Know

Screwing the gender binary while looking soooo cuuuute.


  • Susann June 1st, 2012 7:05 PM

    That’s such an impressive shooting with a great subject!

    Fashion in Pepperland

  • saltwater June 1st, 2012 7:16 PM

    YES! i love this! 8,14 and 17 especially.

  • Tara June 1st, 2012 7:19 PM

    oh my gosh lily! so happy to see her and the rookie world have met (twice now). she’s super wonderful. and I love Mars’s photography; it’s very moving.

    this article is wonderful and the photos are as well. it’s so insightful and so engaging. I love reading about different people’s perception of gender and hearing their individual stories/experiences as well. I love everything about it.

  • Arabelle June 1st, 2012 7:20 PM


  • MissKnowItAll June 1st, 2012 7:21 PM

    This is amazing. Would it be legal for me to marry Rookie?

    • Anaheed June 1st, 2012 11:07 PM


      • MissKnowItAll June 2nd, 2012 8:28 AM

        LETS DO THIS!!!!!!!

  • Noticebox June 1st, 2012 7:29 PM

    Oh man, I love this article a whole lot.
    Also, I think Lily might be one of the best looking people I’ve ever seen.

    • anonymouse June 1st, 2012 8:01 PM

      …my heart may have (it totally did) skipped a beat when I saw Lily’s picture.

    • sobrina June 1st, 2012 8:30 PM

      Serious. I think I just developed a gigantic crush. Actually maybe on all of these people.

      • tessatalkalot June 1st, 2012 10:08 PM

        Lily is absolutely striking!

    • Miarele June 1st, 2012 11:49 PM

      How can someone be so gorgeous, seriously. It’s like Lily is too ethereal for something as petty as gender.

    • mayaautumn June 2nd, 2012 2:25 AM

      ah, yeah, lily is v.pretty and all are really interesting, cool photos!:)

  • -alexandra- June 1st, 2012 7:39 PM

    Wow, this is awesome. As someone growing up in a very small town with very little diversity, I don’t often get to really learn about all the different types of people and hear their stories. I feel a lot more informed now about how people might identify themselves in terms of sexuality and gender. Thanks Rookie <3

  • Lauren Poor June 1st, 2012 7:40 PM

    Yes, yes, yes, blurring the gender lines. More on this topic and social constructs in general ploise!

  • Tyknos93 June 1st, 2012 7:42 PM

    I’m actually crying. It’s been a long week, and this article and these people are ALL so cool and wonderful and interesting. This article has come at just the right time and…gah articles like this keep me coming back to your site Thanks for sharing these guys with us!

  • venus-to-mars June 1st, 2012 7:42 PM

    Hey! Love the photos and I’m really glad I got to be a part of this, it turned out really well, but I think I was misquoted a little in that second sentence. I tend to go through the identity spiel pretty quickly (and I was super tired that day), and I think some of the words might have gotten a bit mixed up? Pretty sure I meant to say somewhere on the transmasculine spectrum between genderqueer and binary (vs. binary spectrum between gq and transmasculine). Looks great though!

    • Anaheed June 1st, 2012 11:03 PM

      Hey, Mars. Thank you for alerting us to our mistake. I’ll fix that right now.

  • fizzingwhizbees June 1st, 2012 7:58 PM

    Angel has the most fascinating face! All these people are so beautiful and cool and the photos are just amazing and UGH. One of my favorite photoshoots yet on Rookie.

  • Alissa June 1st, 2012 8:01 PM

    This is really, really beautiful.

  • Lily O-E June 1st, 2012 8:10 PM

    This was such a good time

  • KinuKinu June 1st, 2012 8:11 PM

    This…….is…….FREAKIN’…..AWESOME…….This is so wonderful…..I….AHHH…..words…..I don’t know what to say…..

  • Britte June 1st, 2012 8:23 PM


    Why wasn’t this site around when I was in my early teens?? This is so amazing :)

  • lubs June 1st, 2012 8:24 PM

    this is amazing. It’s wonderful to see that people like them exist, and they’re so powerful and beautiful. It kinda opens your mind a little bit.

  • fairy_grrrl June 1st, 2012 8:26 PM

    This is amazing.
    I’m never going to regret procrastinating on Rookie.

  • TessAnnesley June 1st, 2012 8:29 PM


  • Rachael June 1st, 2012 8:39 PM

    So amazing.

  • Aria June 1st, 2012 8:41 PM

    Beautiful. The photographer did a wonderful job on capturing their true personalities. IT’S BRILLIANT!

  • Mem June 1st, 2012 8:52 PM

    Wow! Such an incredible article! Thank you for publishing stories with such serious social importance, it’s really wonderful that you try to open people’s minds through Rookie.

  • I.ila June 1st, 2012 9:04 PM

    This is really great! I really think that it is a great thing that people accept the fact that some people don’t know their gender, or their sexuality, and are still trying to find themselves out.

  • Laia June 1st, 2012 9:11 PM

    i love this so so so so much. everyone is so beautiful!!!!!

  • Ben June 1st, 2012 9:19 PM

    I feel like I should have been in this!
    I was just talking with my mom about gender identitys and stuff yesterday.
    We where playing a game at school and it was girls against boys and I felt confused so I just walked over and sat on a bench watching people the whole time and I just told people I don’t feel comfortable participting in activitys like that. I don’t want to be either gender I just want to be myself and wear what i want.
    It’s Always nice to see other amazing people like this. I love this, thank you.

  • forsimplicityssake June 1st, 2012 9:19 PM

    Did you know there are a billion billion stars just in our galaxy?
    I would kind of like to know how many of those people changed their names themselves and why and how they chose.

  • moonchild June 1st, 2012 9:36 PM

    Love it. I want to hear Angel’s story, too! But I honestly love everything about this. :)

  • Whatsername June 1st, 2012 9:41 PM

    This is so amazing. There are so many shades of gray to gender and sexuality that people don’t understand.

    I love the styling, especially Lily and Faye’s c:

  • Pluiie June 1st, 2012 10:22 PM

    A gorgeous photo shoot! Beautiful clothes, beautiful hair, beautiful people.

  • carolineyall June 1st, 2012 10:32 PM

    Damn you, Rookie! Everytime I read an article on here I seem to bawl my eyes out or at least tear up a little bit. Your articles are so wonderfully moving and relevant and all things that are good in life. <3

  • Sugar June 1st, 2012 10:45 PM

    Ugh!!! number 6!!! Next time I hear CIS or anything like that I just want to hurl. Quit self identifying! You are you and you are beautiful!!!

    • Sugar June 1st, 2012 10:47 PM

      not that I hate people who self identify!! I just hate that they even feel like they have to, but unfortunately, I see that is necessary. and THAT is what makes me sick. That people are such bigots.

      These photos are gorgeous.

  • Moxx June 1st, 2012 10:49 PM

    Aaaaaaaa Lily you are gorgeous

  • taste test June 1st, 2012 10:50 PM

    oh my. this is awesome. so very awesome. gorgeous photos and awesome people. thank you.

  • Mitchell June 1st, 2012 10:57 PM

    I think Lily was someone’s coming out story today!!

  • Abby June 1st, 2012 11:24 PM

    Even though I identify as a straight female (which matches my genitalia) and can’t say I know how any of these people feel, I think this is really cool :). Great job. And the pictures themselves are so cool, too. I can really feel the people in them.

  • maddzwx June 1st, 2012 11:26 PM

    Great pictures! And it seems as if Faye and Liam have got it all figured out!

  • Petra June 1st, 2012 11:31 PM

    LOVE <3 <3 <3

  • Anaheed June 1st, 2012 11:38 PM

    Liam with the pug just KILLS me.

  • MinaM8 June 1st, 2012 11:38 PM

    I love this, great to see people who are open about this. And the photoshoot is amazing, they all look stunning :)

  • Adrienne June 1st, 2012 11:45 PM

    This is so great. They’re all so gorgeous and inspirational!

  • Miarele June 1st, 2012 11:46 PM

    Wow… Just. Wow.

    The only thing more amazing than the people is the styling. I love Faye’s and Lily’s especially. <33 Makes me want to run to a store and buy similar things immediately =))
    Great job on this one Rookie :')

  • cocolarue June 2nd, 2012 1:17 AM

    Aaaahhhhh this is so perfect <3

  • tangela June 2nd, 2012 1:26 AM

    THIS IS AMAZING, everyone looks beyond great/INSPIRATIONAL

  • ToriLynne June 2nd, 2012 2:03 AM

    What an incredible and inspirational post! Amazing, beautiful, bravo, Rookie!
    xo, Tori

  • theaterbex June 2nd, 2012 2:50 AM

    I see I’m not the only person here who has developed a massive crush on Lily. (Where can we see her artwork?) Lily aside, this whole article and photoshoot was amazing, and I just want to thank Rookie for your commitment to queer teens.

  • Sonja June 2nd, 2012 3:12 AM

    i love this.

  • hvit June 2nd, 2012 6:02 AM

    This is so brilliant.

  • alix June 2nd, 2012 6:41 AM

    this was awesome!

  • KayKay June 2nd, 2012 7:06 AM

    So inspiring, and the photographs are beautiful!

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  • Moxx June 2nd, 2012 9:32 AM

    Interesting to see varying degrees of identification with certain ideas and types.

    I sort of wish we were like snails, so there would be no difference in physical sexes and no one would even have to think about this sort of thing and defend their states, because any would be recognized as natural by everyone and never be debated.
    (well, ideally)

  • dearmia June 2nd, 2012 12:03 PM

    I swear I saw Christian in Blood Orange’s Sutphin Boulevard video! Oh so beautiful.

  • unefillecommetoi June 2nd, 2012 3:25 PM

    #11 is a really attractive person..sorry i’m akward, but you’re very attractive :) and i LOVE the style in #16

  • Jenn June 2nd, 2012 3:39 PM

    So fierce it suited last month’s theme of power and I would’ve been stoked to see it then. But still these people are wonderful and I’m happy to see this article no matter the month :’)

  • julalondon June 2nd, 2012 4:09 PM

    You guys are incredibly amazing! Why don’t we find stuff like that more often?? So so so so great and TRUE and just perfect! Thank you!

  • VictoryBelle June 2nd, 2012 5:45 PM

    I’m really lost in the jargon, “transmasculine spectrum between genderqueer and binary” huh?? sorry if this is a stupid question

    • venus-to-mars June 2nd, 2012 8:24 PM

      Hey! I realize it gets technical and confusing, and it’s a lot to rattle off every time I’m asked how I identify. It basically means that I was AFAB (assigned female at birth), and though I don’t identify as strictly male (binary) now, I don’t quite feel genderqueer anymore. I respond to male pronouns, I just don’t feel entirely male, but closer to that than anything else.

      Not sure if that helped at all haha

      • VictoryBelle June 2nd, 2012 10:23 PM

        Thankyou! it really did help actually. I wasn’t necessarily aiming that question at you specifically I just noticed that phrase.
        Does binary kind of mean the gender that you feel ignoring any kind of physicality or is it more technical than that? Or is it that genderqueer means you don’t really fit into either gender and binary means you feel settled on one or the other? It seems a shame you have to find so many words for just you being you.

        P.S. loving the shirt with the flowers, awesome colour combo!

  • Rimbaud June 2nd, 2012 7:26 PM

    Marck looks like T.O.P.

  • J June 2nd, 2012 8:55 PM

    This is really, really cool and sooo beautiful. There is something I’ve been wondering with regard to the whole gender issue. How should language be changed, or at least used differently, to reflect the blurring of the gender lines? Especially pronouns. We always refer to people as either he or she; we have no neutral, singular pronoun to use when referring to people who don’t identify as either. What do you guys think?

    • Moxx June 3rd, 2012 9:09 AM

      I think there should be an “official” pronoun for all neutral people in English, but I guess the problem is that in English generally things are not male or female like in other languages, but they are neutral objects. And since we use separate pronouns for people and non-people things, we can’t just use the neutral pronoun that’s for objects, “it”, because then it’s usually considered rude.
      I mean, unless the person says that they prefer an “it” pronoun, but it’s still their call.

      And then there are some specific pronouns that were invented for people who don’t use “he” or “she” to use.

      Usually, I think you should probably ask the person what pronoun(s) they prefer so that you can use the correct one(s).

      If I don’t know and can’t directly ask the person what pronoun(s) they prefer, I just use “they”.

      It’s grammatically incorrect, but only English teachers will correct you because not a lot of people say “he or she” in real life. (plus saying “he or she”, “him or her”, “his or hers” instead of or they/them/theirs/their is definitely not neutralish at all).

    • Pashupati June 3rd, 2012 10:28 AM

      Well, there is singular they (I’ve been told it’s not grammatically correct) and “invented” genderneutral pronouns (per, hir, ze,…)
      English language is way less difficult that way than french, even if some french use genderneutral pronouns (xille, ol/mo -mo is possessive, such as mo frère or mo sœur… there is no word like sibling you have to say sister or brother or maybe we could say frœur?-, el/ille which still sound like binary pronouns spoken), for example jobs’ names, what you are (a student: étudiant, étudiant*e*) AND EVERYTHING are different for the two binary genders.
      So I just don’t say I’m a student, I say I’m doing studies, not a chess player but I play chess (well, that would be true either way, because I’m not good enough to be a chess player.)
      There are surely other more complicated languages.
      French is probably more “stuck” in using gender as purely descriptive of what is physical, because even a friggin’ table or tabouret has a gender here which is kind of cool in some way? Thoughts for when you’re stoned: in french a table is feminine. How? I still assume a table is feminine. I just self-fugged my mind. Anyway, a table is not sentient so I guess it doesn’t care about its gender. I wonder how historically it became that tables are feminine…

      • Moxx June 3rd, 2012 2:50 PM

        I think the whole “objects have a gender” thing comes from a sort of feeling or image that the object gives, sort of like how in Mandarin there are different measure words used for things with specific textures/shapes/aspects- long, slender things, flat things, round things, things contained in a cup, things grouped or arranged in a certain way- as in it is not really about the object itself but the feeling/type that it is said to be and the image that it gives the person when they hear this measure word which qualifies this object.

        This gendered or typed notion varies in different cultures/languages, and so can help to understand the mentality behind the language and culture.
        For example, mouse is masculin in Spanish and Portuguese, but feminine in French.
        Bigger things tend to be feminine in Spanish. Smaller things tend to be feminine in French (as well as diminutive forms of things, with “-ette” for example). Wide, short, or hollowed things tend to be feminine in Portuguese while long, slender, solid things tend to be masculine.
        But it is really not always the case.
        The fact that languages are influenced by and built upon one another makes this less clear-cut and more difficult to be backed by any logic, because there are too many exceptions for it to be a rule, and there is no real rule which determines the gender of an object.
        I guess giving gender to objects is part of a common desire to illustrate, categorize, and clearly define the nature of all things, which just can’t be done for everything.

        I’ve heard German has neutral pronouns, though.

      • erin June 3rd, 2012 3:54 PM

        I’m learning French right now and I totally didn’t think of gender in languages of today. I see how it would be hard in both languages, but especially in French. My teacher and I were discussing about how there were probably genders in English at one time too, since people always refer to cars as “she” here and things like that. I feel like over time it would be impossible to truly change French, because it is such a strict language, but perhaps the way you phrase things will become more common place for people who don’t wish to identify as either gender. I’d never thought of that before. But I’ve heard that the German language has a neutral gender, is that true? I wonder if it is used for people ever?

        • pialuna June 4th, 2012 12:45 PM

          German has a masculine, a feminine and a neutral gender (der, die, das or er, sie, es), all of which are used for objects. The neutral gender is hardly ever used for people.
          An exception would be “das Mädchen”, meaning “the girl”. That means a (young) girl can sometimes be referred to as “es”, meaning “it”.
          But as I said, it’s an exception. Most people would consider the pronoun “es” for a person to be just as rude as “it” in English. I assume “das Mädchen” comes from children in general not being perceived as particularly masculine or feminine, although “der Junge”, meaning “the boy” is masculine in German.

  • Eliza June 3rd, 2012 1:52 AM

    Mitchell is the coolest guy ever.

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  • hillary June 3rd, 2012 4:43 AM

    omg i love this!!!
    and i gotta say, Mars is GORGEOUS.

    i love what lily said though, and she’s totally right – your gender/sexual preference doesn’t define who you are.

  • erin June 3rd, 2012 3:46 PM

    I find these people so fascinating and cool. It’s like, gender does define SO many aspects of life, which is kind of weird, if you think about it. I think the most civilized people are the people who don’t let their genders define them. The purpose of gender and gender recognition is for the purpose of furthering the race, basically. But we as a species don’t really need to worry about that anymore, so why is everyone still so hung up on what roles men and women should play and how they should dress and act? We can become whoever we want to be. That’s why I think these people are really visionaries. I admire them so much.

  • Emilie June 3rd, 2012 5:56 PM

    Mars is beautiful.

    • Moxx June 3rd, 2012 7:02 PM

      Yes! Seconded (or thirded? Or more, probably.)

      There are such beautiful people in this shoot.

  • PoisonIvy June 4th, 2012 1:37 PM

    I absolutely loved this shoot. They are all so beautiful, I loved Lily and Mars! Thank you!

  • Mirae June 4th, 2012 9:54 PM

    I love this. LOVE LOVE LOVE it so much :)

  • RXLWK June 5th, 2012 7:56 PM

    I want to chest-bump every one of these beautiful kids so much. So much respect.

  • garconniere June 6th, 2012 3:39 PM

    fantastic photoshoot, great stories. i love that these people spoke for themselves so we the readers didn’t impose our own assumptions on them. really refreshing and important to see.

  • roxandroid June 6th, 2012 5:15 PM

    I LOVE the solo photo of Christian and their quote. And all of the photos, really. These are all beautiful people. I hope we can see more and more trans* and lgbtq models in future Rookie shoots.

  • Gretchyn June 6th, 2012 8:36 PM

    I’m so glad this is here. This just made me happy. Thank you Rookie.

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  • Be June 23rd, 2012 4:40 AM

    I hope Rookie do more stuff related to transgender. It’ll be so good if you could have a transgender writter.

  • evalavendar July 3rd, 2012 3:09 AM

    OMG Miranda July movie reference!!!!! Dying.

  • gisela factora May 10th, 2013 9:26 PM

    it’s kind of funny because i was just thinking, “rookie should do more things on non gender-conforming people” when i came across this article :3