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Ask a Grown Man: Damian Kulash

Sexism in the music industry and loveeeeee.

Every month a different grown person answers your questions about love and life. This month’s special guest: Damian Kulash of the band OK Go!

Next month’s column will be Ask a Grown Woman. If you’re a girl who goes out with girls or if you’re just wondering something about girls, please email us your questions:

Video shot by Damian and edited by Rivkah.


  • anniefannie October 11th, 2011 7:23 PM

    Thank you Damian for keeping it real! I absolutely hate it when adults pretend that problems like sexism can simply be fixed with a brave statement. Damian told it like it is which is refreshing, because now I don’t feel like I’ve failed if I can’t simply fix my problems with one sentence!

  • Nylorian22 October 11th, 2011 7:23 PM

    I love OK Go!! He answered these questions great.

  • chickenpatty October 11th, 2011 7:25 PM

    really great advice and his smile at the end killed me :)

  • Pyxie Gwynne October 11th, 2011 7:35 PM

    Love Damian Kulash! Great answers. &I totally agree that every bohemian is a psuedo-bohemian.

  • Marguerite October 11th, 2011 7:38 PM

    hehe he has the cutest smile :) *yay*

  • insteadofanelephant October 11th, 2011 8:00 PM

    i totally get falling in love with an image. thank goodness i realized this in time (kind of)…phew.

    instead of an elephant

  • AlyG October 11th, 2011 8:05 PM

    Additional advice from a grown up: That is what husband material looks like.

  • Marie October 11th, 2011 8:09 PM

    WELL HELLO. And my question is….are you single?????

    I am the Blanche Deveraux of the Rookie staff

    • Tavi October 11th, 2011 8:27 PM

      omg marie

    • diny October 11th, 2011 8:53 PM

      i have that question too! damian, you are so cute and grown up and cool and handsome and cute and grown up and funny. xx

    • Jenny October 11th, 2011 11:47 PM

      Blanche Deveraux!!!!! I agree with this. Marie is a total babe.

  • Naomi Morris October 11th, 2011 8:19 PM

    haha Marie :’)
    all this advice was sooooo good

  • Gretchyn October 11th, 2011 8:20 PM

    Thank you Damian for keepin’ it real + looking so good + playing awesome music + for spreading awareness of the sexism all around. X

  • Jamie October 11th, 2011 8:54 PM

    teen boys with gross hairdos that listen to minor threat were(/are?) my lifeblood

    • diny October 11th, 2011 9:58 PM

      i envy that! boys at my life are so plain and typical of casual. talking about the same thing, dress up the same thing, listen to the same thing which means pop music. don’t be surprise if they think about the same thing! so boring.

  • anna hollow October 11th, 2011 10:57 PM

    this comment is a marriage invitation from me for damian kulash. seriously, damian. take it into consideration. get back to me.

  • Chimdi October 11th, 2011 11:00 PM

    @diny Same! I have a mini crush on him now and guys at my school all wear Axe, flirt with popular girls, and listen to pop music.

  • Hannah October 11th, 2011 11:40 PM

    Maybe I’m crazy but I’ve always felt like my life has been FLYING by. And it’s moving faster and faster every year. :( People who feel like their lives are moving slowly – enjoy it!

  • Raindrops October 12th, 2011 7:51 AM

    Now I finally HAD to register because I was like:
    Oh my God: Damian Kulash talking about life and sexism?
    Rookie, now I love you even more :D
    You’re really the very best Teenage-Website on the world!
    Keep up the great work!

  • Enid_Coleslaw October 12th, 2011 3:30 PM

    I love this section. I wish this (and Rookie) had been there when I was a teenager.

  • anayaya October 12th, 2011 5:09 PM

    My love for him was just taken to a higher level. omg.

  • Dinospy October 12th, 2011 7:22 PM

    “The best people make the worst mistakes.” I don’t know how much truth it holds, but it definitely helped me get some feelings out. As soon as he said that I felt the waterworks coming. Loved the video.

  • Marie October 13th, 2011 1:14 AM


  • stellar October 13th, 2011 2:27 AM

    wow, great stuff! why do we have to feel like we ‘must’ know everything when we don’t?
    reality check time!!

  • leni October 13th, 2011 6:13 AM

    “It’ll be over soon… in forever”
    *cute smile/shrug*

  • jeepsterbear October 13th, 2011 10:37 AM

    Note to Beth from California:
    Developing a thick skin is NOT the same thing as becoming desensitized. Developing a thick skin towards sexism just means you learn to realize that you don’t have to take it personally. It doesn’t mean you learn to keep your mouth shut. It’s not about you, it’s about something bigger. It’s about the shitty way society teaches us boys and girls to behave towards one another, and it’s up to all of us to break the cycle. Don’t ever ignore your instincts. They’re there to keep you safe! If something makes you uncomfortable, take a minute, put it in as much perspective as you can, and address the thing, not the person.

  • mirah gate October 13th, 2011 6:28 PM

    Real cool, practical advice. Thanks Damian.

  • TroutsB October 14th, 2011 12:00 PM

    What a lovely and delicious man. Just going to go and download everything OK GO ever made then.

  • naeheeee October 15th, 2011 8:24 AM

    omg he is so cute period

  • shayleigh October 18th, 2011 1:29 AM

    Can we all just play 1:13-1:28 over and over and over until we curl into fetal position and begin sucking our thumbs
    I can’t even speak he’s so

  • stelliform May 12th, 2013 8:05 PM

    This is my favorite Ask a Grown Man ever.